How to get the engagement ring back?

[AlphaNate]

About 3 years ago, I fell hard for a "unicorn." I asked her to marry me and she said yes. We broke up last June. We've had zero contact since about October.

We live in different states now, but I will be in her town for an unrelated matter next week. I know where she lives and works. Any good way for me to get that ring back?

 

[TheMonkeyKing]

I forget how many times I've had this conversation on here....

If she doesn't want to give the ring back, you ain't getting it back man. It was a gift from you to her, and you have no way of proving otherwise. If she was going to give it back, she probably would have by now. Maybe she hopes you'll get back together....?

You might get it back through courts, if you can prove she did you some disservice or other, but that again is a long shot and you might be down even further.

How much was the ring??

 

[TheMonkeyKing]

http://family.findlaw.com/marriage/what-happens-to-the-engagement-ring-in-a-broken-engagement.html

 

[dustmuffin]

Just ask for it. Might work might not.

 

[Roober]

She is actually supposed to return it as it was given with the intent of getting married. I wouldn't stress over it though as if she won't, you likely won't get it back.

 

[QuadDeuces]

If you broke up on really bad term you can shoot her a message asking to mail it to you.
If she wasn't an utter psycho you could drop by and say hi.

I think it's something you can figure out yourself best.

 

[Urbanyst]

Ask her for it nicely. If she refuses, tell her nicely that you plan to file a lawsuit since it was given with the intent of marriage. Also tell her you have a great lawyer and she will probably lose, so its easier for everyone if she does the right thing upfront and gives it back to you.

 

[AlphaNate]

Looks like the law in South Carolina is towards favoring the giver of the ring: http://www.masellalaw.com/Columbia-...Bride-to-be-Keep-the-Engagement-Ring-if-.aspx

I'll be honest, I had no idea I may even be entitled to the ring. I thought I was just out $2,200. Sure glad I posted this!

So, I shot her a text that said, "I will be in town to get the ring. That okay with you?" She replied, "I'll mail it."

Sounds like I'm going to get lucky here and avoid any drama. I've asked my mother to contact her so the ring can be mailed to my mom and I'll get it from there. I don't want to give her my address. Not sure what to do with it from there, since I can't really return it. I guess just sell it?

 

[Jetleg]

Well there you go, problem solved. best answer ever.

I remember some friend of mine bought jewelry and dresses to his annoying a$$ girlfriend. he spent like 1k $ and he didn't even had that much money. (lived with his parents). he texted her and asked her where is it, she told him she sold all of it for money.

He actually went up there and had a verbal fight with her dad, who called him an idiot for buying all these stuff and laughing him off, they were like only 1 month together.

 

[Glassguy]

Looks like the law in South Carolina is towards favoring the giver of the ring: http://www.masellalaw.com/Columbia-...Bride-to-be-Keep-the-Engagement-Ring-if-.aspx

I'll be honest, I had no idea I may even be entitled to the ring. I thought I was just out $2,200. Sure glad I posted this!

So, I shot her a text that said, "I will be in town to get the ring. That okay with you?" She replied, "I'll mail it."

Sounds like I'm going to get lucky here and avoid any drama. I've asked my mother to contact her so the ring can be mailed to my mom and I'll get it from there. I don't want to give her my address. Not sure what to do with it from there, since I can't really return it. I guess just sell it?

I have an ex wife. Her engagement ring was $3100. She kept it, which is fine, because I never wanted to see it again.

On to the ex fiance, I got engaged in October 2015. We broke up in February 2016. I asked for the ring back after the "talk" and she graciously handed it over. $9200. I am friends with the jeweler and I took it back to him. He was nice enough to put it out on the shelf with the higher end engagement rings for a cut.

It has been there ever since last March. I was hoping for someone to fall in love with it over Christmas or V day, nada.

You can get rid of it cheap on ebay, craigslist, etc if you have a certification and appraisal. You might be better off taking it back where you bought it and seeing if they will sale in for a commission.

If you go that route, be prepared to wait.

 

[BeExcellent]

I have a female colleague who was engaged to a lawyer. He gave her a family heirloom ring. She bought a dress, paid all the deposits for all the venues, food, photographer, hotel & etc. Over $15K in deposits and guarantee money. (Read you don't get it back if you cancel). They lived in her house while he was "building his clientele". He proposed and getting married was his idea. Took her to Paris to propose.

Then a year later Prince Charming went to Italy on a business trip and met someone else and broke off the engagement after invitations had been mailed. Left my girlfriend stuck with all those costs, which she had graciously paid for so he could get clients and pursue his business.

Needless to say he asked for his family ring back. His mother also asked for the family ring back.

She told them both "Sure. As soon as I am reimbursed for every dime I spent for the wedding your son asked for, and then cancelled." She has every receipt, a dress she'll never wear and is out 15K.

She has seen no money and no lawsuit. She has in writing that he broke it off. He won't sue. He'll lose. She has the ring in a safe deposit box. It's quite valuable and quite large. She said she'll hold it as collateral for a year or so & then will sell it to recoup her costs.

Some people are jerks. My girlfriend is better off without this schmo obviously but sheesh.

Sad thing is this guy screwed over his mom too. You see the family heirloom was from his mother's family (Read didn't cost him a dime.)

 

[Doctor Europeo]

Glad you got the ring back!!! You should celebrate

 

[AlphaNate]

She never mailed it. Today, she's texting me asking why I want it back. ****.

 

[Who Dares Win]

She never mailed it. Today, she's texting me asking why I want it back. ****.

Tell her someone is sick and you need it to sell to get the money.

If her hamster brain thinks some other girl will benefit from it no way you will get it back.

 

[17 shots]

She never mailed it. Today, she's texting me asking why I want it back. ****.

And let the games begin

 

[bigneil]

Vaseline or a meat cleaver.

 

[wifehunter]

 

[AlphaNate]

Now the ***** is texting me every single thing I ever did wrong (in her eyes) in our relationship. This is with very little response at all from me.

Maybe she's trying to annoy me into dropping it.

 

[lizardking82]

Now the ***** is texting me every single thing I ever did wrong (in her eyes) in our relationship. This is with very little response at all from me.

Maybe she's trying to annoy me into dropping it.

Well, tough one here. I think the control in this case is not really in your hands, but I guess you got a better chance if you try and play it cool, like you don't need it. You won't force her into giving it to you anyways and the face she's mentioning everything you might have done wrong just kinda goes to show why's she an ex now LOL

 

[sazc]

I would just send her the link to the law, let her know that it was given on contemplation of marriage and that never happened so you would like it back. Then ask her to send it to your mother's by April 30, 2017, give her the address again, tell her to insure the package for $its value to text you a copy of the receipt and you will reimburse her.

Them say nothing. If April 30 comes, call an attorney to draft a letter fur a few hundred, or call the cops and ask if you can file a stolen property report.

Dont threaten her with any of this, just keep it in your back pocket