how to get rid of this girl

[Plinco]

There is this girl that, on a scale of 1 to 10 is like a 4 or something. She is also a co-worker of mine, and she has oneitis with me and is very moody and attached to me. Unfortunately for me, I got impulsive yesterday and playfully got aggressive. I just felt like it I guess.... She was not the only one that I was doing this with either.

So she calls me later on that day and said that she wanted to talk to me about something, so we met up at a nearby park. I was just aggressive, and I suppose she just wanted me that badly, so as we were talking, it somehow ended up as her jumping on top of me on a park bench and we started making out.

Here's the problem: she wants to have a LTR with me, but I think I was just horny lol. If I let her know my status with her, then she is going to make a big deal out of it. I need to stop this before it gets any worse.

I thinking of lying and telling her that I am just not ready to have a relationship, and that I don't want to hurt her feelings.

 

[SandHawk]

Why would you lie? Why not just tell her that you are not interested in a relationship at all? Don't use the "I'm not ready for a relationship" argument, because it gives her hope: He will be over time, as long as I stick around long enough.

If you want to either keep banging away at her, or want to get rid of her, just tell her that an LTR will never happen. You don't want an LTR with her, and the only thing you'd be interested in is sex(or if that's not the case, don't tell her that either). However, I strongly recommend staying away from girls that are in love with you and whom you're not interested in. They're going to cause a lot of drama, no matter what. Imagine how she'll respond when she sees you dating another chick the night after you banged her.

 

[Plinco]

I agree with what you said. Anything I do though is going to make her explode though. This is totally my fault, for I have just walked right into a trap. Even in the best case scenario, I'm still going to have problems. I am just trying to get away with this the best I can.

 

[SandHawk]

Why are you concerned about her exploding? I've screwed up with this sort of thing in the past, it happens. Even after a playful fling, you shouldn't directly dive into an LTR. Just be open and honest that you're not interested. People hook up all the time.

 

[Plinco]

Why are you concerned about her exploding? I've screwed up with this sort of thing in the past, it happens. Even after a playful fling, you shouldn't directly dive into an LTR. Just be open and honest that you're not interested. People hook up all the time.

Again, I agree, but I have to see her everyday plus I work with her. I mean, I personally like the honest solution, but...

I don't know, maybe I should just let the chips fall as they may.

 

[SandHawk]

Again, I agree, but I have to see her everyday plus I work with her. I mean, I personally like the honest solution, but...

I don't know, maybe I should just let the chips fall as they may.

What the f*ck are you? A man or a dramaqueen? Seriously, if you're a man, you should stand up for your mistakes. You know the "never apologize" rule? That rule applies to WHO you are, and that you should never apologize for who you are. But it doesn't mean you never have to apologize to whatever you did to someone.

In this case, I really believe you should just stop p*ssying out and tell her you're not interested. It's easier on your mind(gets the stress out of the way) and easier on her, as she can move on. Yes, you will have to face her daily, so what? If you are honest and open about it, she probably won't hold any grudges. Besides, she is in love with you, how many people do you know that are in love that hold grudges against the person they love?

In the end, I'm just talking to a wall. I give you advice here, I tell you what options you have, and you just end up going like "Yes, but ...". In conclusion: You don't want any advice, as you are clearly resisting any advice given. Don't ask if you don't want to hear what others have to say.

 

[machoalex]

Your other option would be to start exposing your own personality flaws. Just make yourself look like a less desirable package to her. Be more irritable, fart or burp when you need to. Whatever you want as long as it makes you less attractive in her eyes. She'll get over you pretty quickly.

 

[Plinco]

What the f*ck are you? A man or a dramaqueen? Seriously, if you're a man, you should stand up for your mistakes. You know the "never apologize" rule? That rule applies to WHO you are, and that you should never apologize for who you are. But it doesn't mean you never have to apologize to whatever you did to someone.

In this case, I really believe you should just stop p*ssying out and tell her you're not interested. It's easier on your mind(gets the stress out of the way) and easier on her, as she can move on. Yes, you will have to face her daily, so what? If you are honest and open about it, she probably won't hold any grudges. Besides, she is in love with you, how many people do you know that are in love that hold grudges against the person they love?

In the end, I'm just talking to a wall. I give you advice here, I tell you what options you have, and you just end up going like "Yes, but ...". In conclusion: You don't want any advice, as you are clearly resisting any advice given. Don't ask if you don't want to hear what others have to say.

When I say "let the chips fall as they may" I mean being totally 100% honest and let her get upset. Believe me, you have the same thoughts that I do.

 

[PapiChulo]

It's a roll reversal: simply treat her the way you would like to be treated in a situation like this.

Is there any chance you could fuk her? just for the kicks.