"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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How to get rid of this feeling?

lokariototal

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1. I always feel that I'm not "ready" yet. That i'm not good enough. Even tho' Ive done many many many approaches, phone closes, read lots of books, I still have a feeling that I'm incapable of getting women, and I don't know why. How can I get rid of this?

2. What do u guys think of ****y Comedy? I tried it some years ago when I was first learning and it felt phony and a bit lame. Things like "you're into me" just.. i dunno.. sound lame. But sometimes I wonder myself if that's the attitude I'm lacking!

3. For some reason, most time when I invite girls to a date, even tho' they seem to like me, even tho i make them laugh and have a good time, and so on, they say they don't want a date, or generally they just say "yes! but let's go with my friends". Also, group of best friends (who were in the same situation than me with women) are getting out of it and I feel I'm being left behind... I'm starting to hate when my friends succeed

5. Sometimes, if we're for example on a table hanging out and a couple is kissing, I feel bad to myself. I feel Im incapable of doing that. I feel they look down on me! I guess i have a weird complex or somethin'

6. I think part of my problem is that I tend to pretend that my love life is all handled (even tho i feel is a failure) and for that I don't seem to connect with women on an intimate level. I think what i'm lacking is intimacy with girls. Maybe girls dont want to date me cuz there's no intimacy. What do u think?

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"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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Soprano

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1. i'm not "ready" yet either, i still need to lose 20 lbs before i wanna take my shirt off at the beach, but i may as well still be getting laid while i'm "getting ready", plus its perfect practice for when i am "ready", dont psych yourself out, keep doing it. some people never feel "ready" and it prevents them from doing anything.

2. i think ****y comedy is a good mindset to have, but using that stuff word for word is no good. having that mindset is great though.

could be lack of intimacy but i have no idea why lol i only got responses for #1 and #2
 
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