"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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How to get over waves of feeling down

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This month hasn't been the best for me. My gf of 10 months is gone until December, I have a hard school load, I crashed my motorcycle, and I'm running into financial issues.

All these things combined--and especially not having my gf around--has left me feeling fairly down about life at times, like I'm stuck in a rut. I don't have that aggressive confidence I use to have.

I keep trying to do things that I know will help me, like starting to box again and workout a lot, but I can't seem to put in the energy to actually do them. I just end up lying around instead.

Any advice on how to get myself straight again?
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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I'm in a similar situation atm myself,i just clear my head for a while,smoke a cig and say to myself "i'm not a quitter" and spring right into action.
 

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lol... I'm in a similar situation as well.
I came down to watch over my parent's house for 2 weeks, while they went to Hawaii, along w. my sister, her husband, and child. All for my pops 60th B-Day. Sucks big time, wish I could be there... but just couldn't afford it.

Anyways... so the LoLo's are in effect.

And through it all, I've sort of realized the best way to groove through it, is to not make a problem of it. As crazy as that sounds. I've sort of just given myself the freedom to go through whatever moods/thoughts/feelings the last few days. Just conciously witnessing it all, accepting it, and letting it be. And I've found I've been gaining a lot of strength through that. Its like a process of self-integration is going on. Like the more I allow myself to accept and feel the blues of the pain... it sort of turns into music, and takes on another light. A healing.

So as contrary as this advice sounds. I would straight up give it a try for a day. Just let it be ok. Its given me a lot more "realness" and I feel stronger for being big enough to allow the experience of it, to be.

Hope you got some light outta this.
Peace'
 

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WORKEROUTER said:
Any advice on how to get myself straight again?
Remember that you could be dead,or be poor living in the street with no family and nothing to look forward to. THERE IS ALWAYS SOMEONE WHO IS WORSE OFF THEN YOU!!!!

REMEMBER.......WHATEVER DOESN'T KILL YOU ONLY MAKES YOU STRONGER!

Just listen to music,lift weights,do a hobby,anything that makes you happy. I know now having your girlfriend around for awhile is a bummer but hey,use it to your advantage. Go bust your butt in the gym,and suprise her with muscles when she gets back. You have three months,alot can be acheived in three months.
 

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Sounds like a plan. I'm working out today, and I started taking care of my work. I feel better.
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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I hear ya man, my gfs gone till December too. Hang in there man.

I find that drinking occasionally, going out with friends, keeping in touch with those who you miss, hitting the gym, and rocking out to good tunes are all good ways to get past the blues.
 

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just putting music that makes me more hyped up helps and going out with friends..just relieves your brain a lot and kind of puts u in to normal status..
 

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Book of Psalms

34:18
The LORD is nigh unto them that are of a broken heart; and saveth such as be of a contrite spirit.

145:18
The LORD is nigh unto all them that call upon him, to all that call upon him in truth.
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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