"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

Read more...

How to get over waves of feeling down

WORKEROUTER

Master Don Juan
Joined
Jan 9, 2003
Messages
1,514
Reaction score
9
Location
WA
This month hasn't been the best for me. My gf of 10 months is gone until December, I have a hard school load, I crashed my motorcycle, and I'm running into financial issues.

All these things combined--and especially not having my gf around--has left me feeling fairly down about life at times, like I'm stuck in a rut. I don't have that aggressive confidence I use to have.

I keep trying to do things that I know will help me, like starting to box again and workout a lot, but I can't seem to put in the energy to actually do them. I just end up lying around instead.

Any advice on how to get myself straight again?
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

Read more...

GloriouslyInsane

Master Don Juan
Joined
May 7, 2006
Messages
507
Reaction score
1
I'm in a similar situation atm myself,i just clear my head for a while,smoke a cig and say to myself "i'm not a quitter" and spring right into action.
 

DarkLight

Master Don Juan
Joined
Nov 21, 2005
Messages
618
Reaction score
4
Age
46
Location
SoCal
lol... I'm in a similar situation as well.
I came down to watch over my parent's house for 2 weeks, while they went to Hawaii, along w. my sister, her husband, and child. All for my pops 60th B-Day. Sucks big time, wish I could be there... but just couldn't afford it.

Anyways... so the LoLo's are in effect.

And through it all, I've sort of realized the best way to groove through it, is to not make a problem of it. As crazy as that sounds. I've sort of just given myself the freedom to go through whatever moods/thoughts/feelings the last few days. Just conciously witnessing it all, accepting it, and letting it be. And I've found I've been gaining a lot of strength through that. Its like a process of self-integration is going on. Like the more I allow myself to accept and feel the blues of the pain... it sort of turns into music, and takes on another light. A healing.

So as contrary as this advice sounds. I would straight up give it a try for a day. Just let it be ok. Its given me a lot more "realness" and I feel stronger for being big enough to allow the experience of it, to be.

Hope you got some light outta this.
Peace'
 

blinkwatt

Master Don Juan
Joined
Apr 6, 2005
Messages
1,904
Reaction score
7
Age
39
WORKEROUTER said:
Any advice on how to get myself straight again?
Remember that you could be dead,or be poor living in the street with no family and nothing to look forward to. THERE IS ALWAYS SOMEONE WHO IS WORSE OFF THEN YOU!!!!

REMEMBER.......WHATEVER DOESN'T KILL YOU ONLY MAKES YOU STRONGER!

Just listen to music,lift weights,do a hobby,anything that makes you happy. I know now having your girlfriend around for awhile is a bummer but hey,use it to your advantage. Go bust your butt in the gym,and suprise her with muscles when she gets back. You have three months,alot can be acheived in three months.
 

WORKEROUTER

Master Don Juan
Joined
Jan 9, 2003
Messages
1,514
Reaction score
9
Location
WA
Sounds like a plan. I'm working out today, and I started taking care of my work. I feel better.
 

“The 22 Psychological Triggers That Make Women Chase You… Starting Tonight”

Forget the cash, the cars, and the chiseled jawlines. Female desire operates on a completely different frequency. Primal. Subconscious. Triggers that bypass her logic and hit her on a gut level. Most guys are totally blind to them.

I know because I was one of them. The overthinking. The paralysis. The silent drive home kicking yourself for freezing up. Watching average guys walk away with the girl while you stood there stuck in your own head.

Then I decoded the psychology behind what actually makes women tick. 22 hard rules.  Subtle behavioral shifts that rewired my entire reality. The anxiety evaporated. Women started leaning in. Investing. Chasing.

Read more...

itishe

Master Don Juan
Joined
Dec 25, 2005
Messages
925
Reaction score
2
I hear ya man, my gfs gone till December too. Hang in there man.

I find that drinking occasionally, going out with friends, keeping in touch with those who you miss, hitting the gym, and rocking out to good tunes are all good ways to get past the blues.
 

lildevil

Senior Don Juan
Joined
Aug 8, 2006
Messages
218
Reaction score
1
Location
from here
just putting music that makes me more hyped up helps and going out with friends..just relieves your brain a lot and kind of puts u in to normal status..
 

bbestar

Banned
Joined
Jul 14, 2005
Messages
810
Reaction score
4
Location
Monte Carlo, Monaco
Book of Psalms

34:18
The LORD is nigh unto them that are of a broken heart; and saveth such as be of a contrite spirit.

145:18
The LORD is nigh unto all them that call upon him, to all that call upon him in truth.
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

Read more...

Top