"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

Read more...

How to get over insecurities!?

bigwuz

Don Juan
Joined
Aug 18, 2012
Messages
103
Reaction score
22
In my relationships I tend to get clingy too involved and insecure. So I decided to ask how to keep from being insecure and also post ways I think will keep you from being insecure.
1 always have something to do a goal for the day or whatever. I think this could be as simple as going for a walk or even doing laundry. Then make bigger goals exp I want to start taking bjj classes art classes and learn to ride a horse

2. Have friends you can go too this is hard because honestly I don't have any friends really but having a social group keeps you distracted from being insecure with females

3. Don't ever get mad ever if you find yourself getting mad go inside your mind and count to 3 I personally tend to take most things as a joke (I have a long fuse) think
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

Read more...

RangerMIke

Master Don Juan
Joined
Nov 23, 2014
Messages
4,764
Reaction score
7,981
Location
USA, Louisiana
Give a **** less everyday and Smile
This is pretty much it. Have goals and objectives, but not be attached to a certain outcome. Insecurity comes from worry, worry comes from being outcome dependent.... Just know that you are doing the best you can with what you have and recognize there are just things you can not control.
 

Groverz

Don Juan
Joined
Oct 28, 2013
Messages
134
Reaction score
11
Age
45
Location
Rochester, NY
We all deal with it, I think it takes time and not getting so upset of not reaching a goal or over thinking things. I guess try to live in the now and not worry so much about the future. Not giving a S it is not easy it goes against most peoples natural being.
 

Sprayarc

Banned
Joined
Nov 8, 2015
Messages
303
Reaction score
86
The fact that you admit this is a problem is an excellent start. Now you are working on it. Don't worry about it to much and like every one else says just care less about things. Change takes time. Baby steps.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

Read more...

Top