You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
You can skip the expensive cars, the fancy clothes, and the endless gym selfies. Completely unnecessary.
I used to freeze the second a beautiful woman looked my way. Frustrated. Awkward. Watching other guys walk away with the girl while I stood there tongue-tied.
Then I discovered 22 simple rules that rewired my entire dating life. The anxiety vanished. Conversations flowed effortlessly. Women started chasing me for a change.
These rules trigger a woman's subconscious attraction switches. And you can start using them tonight.
What he said. #3 is vitally important. Don't act like a friend, and you won't become one. Don't let this experience drag you down, and make you assume that no one likes you, either. Avoid self-defeating thoughts and behaviors. Just switch up your game with the next one.f283000 said:1. Realize that it is almost impossible to get out of the friend zone and not worth the effort to try.
2. While you are swimming against the tide and fighting against huge odds to get out of the friend zone spending a great deal of time and effort realize there are lots and lots of single cute women in your area that right now are feeling a little lonely, and would love nothing more than a little romance in their lives. Why not concentrate your efforts on them rather than an endeavor that has the odds strongly against you? (fighting the friendzone)
3. Realize the mistakes you made that got you into the friendzone in the first place so that you do not fall into that trap again with other women.
Exactly.Mike32ct said:There is no cure. Focus only on prevention.
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
Lennyboy said:I think I'm in to deep in the friend zone with this girl.
Any tips on how I could possibly get out?
Just ask her? Try to kiss her? etc etc.
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
Lennyboy,Lennyboy said:I think I'm in to deep in the friend zone with this girl.
Any tips on how I could possibly get out?
Just ask her? Try to kiss her? etc etc.