Why "Whatever You Want" Keeps You Single

She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.

You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.

The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.

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How to get my confidence back?

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Locster

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This is the only thing stopping me from bursting into the dating and social scene. I have low self-esteem and little confidence. I used to be confident and social before i got to high school. Bullying and other problems in high school made me lose my confidence. I am ready now to unleash everything i have inside, what things could i do to become a more outgoing confident person?
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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Ace of Flames

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Start by reading the "Uplifting Material" section in the DJ bible. There are some great posts from Pook and others that really get you motivated. It makes you determined to fix up your life. Good stuff.

After that? Get more friends. Talk to more people. Be active in class. Get into some kind of sport or club. Do stuff on the weekends. Learn how to drive. Do something you're good at.

And above all else: Don't let people get to you. There are a lot of stupid people in the world, but don't let them bother you. Getting all agrivated only stresses you out. Stress brings you down in all aspects of life. Its just not worth it. The bullies don't matter, they're just scared little boys on the inside. The problems all have solutions, and all problems are temporary if you can fix them. This applies to girls as well. So what if you get turned down, or even straight-up denied? Don't let it get under your skin. You are the master of yourself, don't let anyone else take over.

.....I'm not sure that last part relates to building confidence, now that i read it again.... but hey, its good advice anyway, so it stays.
 
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I just had a friend I was trying to help out, now he has no confidence. (he said it when we was right in the field and it was time for him to approach) What I realize is you don't need confidence you just need to do it because your going to be building so much confidence before your in the field and when you get there everything is gone or you just can't do it. So your trying to build more confidence and by that time its all over. When you get home you build more confidence again because now your home and your like "Yep next time I'm going to do it" and the cycle keeps going. Best thing is to just go in and approach confidence or no confidence. You will become more confident as you realize you just approached these girls and got a number, kiss, fclose, etc.
 
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