"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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How to Get Her Out on a Date after Getting Her Number (Text Game)

spinaroonie

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You fancy a girl on the street. You approach her. You run your game. She's laughing, you're vibing well. You get her number. All in 5 minutes.

Now what?

THIS IS WHERE MOST GUYS LOSE THE GIRL!

- If you text too soon, you come across needy.
- If you text too late, she'll have forgotten who you are.
- If you call her, she won't pick up.
- If you text her to ask her out a date, she'll feel awkward about meeting a random stranger alone and either not respond or flake.

So how do you make the transition from number to meet?

(And let's say that an instant date wasn't feasible - both you and her were busy and had places to go.)

Text logs from guys who've managed to get dates from quick number closes would be good. Let's see how it's done.
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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Alex DeLarge

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I usually text first.. A lot of people on here don't agree with that, but let's face it. People (whether it be men or women) have turned into wimps and they prefer the less confrontational contact.

I usually text the girl a day or two after I get her number and just say "Hey It's Alex from the other night. How about we get together on (whatever day you want) and hangout?"

I really don't think it's awkward at all to go on dates with girls that you don't know at all. It's worked for me many times, I don't see why it can't work for anyone else. If the girl flakes or doesn't reply, then who cares? She probably sucks anyways.

You just have to be cool, confident, and act YOURSELF in your first impression. Fvck all this BS about pick up lines, negs, and stuff like that. It's all good for practice in the beginning.. But as long as you have a sense of humor and you're laid back you're golden.

Just don't wait forever to hit her up, she'll probably figure she didn't mean anything to you.. Or that you were too nervous to talk to her and finally worked up the courage. Just do it when you feel like it, don't be nervous.. It's just a girl.
 

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Alex DeLarge said:
I usually text first.. A lot of people on here don't agree with that, but let's face it. People (whether it be men or women) have turned into wimps and they prefer the less confrontational contact.

I usually text the girl a day or two after I get her number and just say "Hey It's Alex from the other night. How about we get together on (whatever day you want) and hangout?"

I really don't think it's awkward at all to go on dates with girls that you don't know at all. It's worked for me many times, I don't see why it can't work for anyone else. If the girl flakes or doesn't reply, then who cares? She probably sucks anyways.

You just have to be cool, confident, and act YOURSELF in your first impression. Fvck all this BS about pick up lines, negs, and stuff like that. It's all good for practice in the beginning.. But as long as you have a sense of humor and you're laid back you're golden.

Just don't wait forever to hit her up, she'll probably figure she didn't mean anything to you.. Or that you were too nervous to talk to her and finally worked up the courage. Just do it when you feel like it, don't be nervous.. It's just a girl.
awesome post.
 

Tortendieb

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I must admit that texting has worked better for me too. I always thought it's to unpersonal and not ballsy enough, but somehow many people act really scared when you call them.

For that reason facebook PMs are ok too. I know you will thrash me for it but it is my experience.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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