"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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How to Get Her Out on a Date after Getting Her Number (Text Game)

spinaroonie

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You fancy a girl on the street. You approach her. You run your game. She's laughing, you're vibing well. You get her number. All in 5 minutes.

Now what?

THIS IS WHERE MOST GUYS LOSE THE GIRL!

- If you text too soon, you come across needy.
- If you text too late, she'll have forgotten who you are.
- If you call her, she won't pick up.
- If you text her to ask her out a date, she'll feel awkward about meeting a random stranger alone and either not respond or flake.

So how do you make the transition from number to meet?

(And let's say that an instant date wasn't feasible - both you and her were busy and had places to go.)

Text logs from guys who've managed to get dates from quick number closes would be good. Let's see how it's done.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Alex DeLarge

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I usually text first.. A lot of people on here don't agree with that, but let's face it. People (whether it be men or women) have turned into wimps and they prefer the less confrontational contact.

I usually text the girl a day or two after I get her number and just say "Hey It's Alex from the other night. How about we get together on (whatever day you want) and hangout?"

I really don't think it's awkward at all to go on dates with girls that you don't know at all. It's worked for me many times, I don't see why it can't work for anyone else. If the girl flakes or doesn't reply, then who cares? She probably sucks anyways.

You just have to be cool, confident, and act YOURSELF in your first impression. Fvck all this BS about pick up lines, negs, and stuff like that. It's all good for practice in the beginning.. But as long as you have a sense of humor and you're laid back you're golden.

Just don't wait forever to hit her up, she'll probably figure she didn't mean anything to you.. Or that you were too nervous to talk to her and finally worked up the courage. Just do it when you feel like it, don't be nervous.. It's just a girl.
 

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Alex DeLarge said:
I usually text first.. A lot of people on here don't agree with that, but let's face it. People (whether it be men or women) have turned into wimps and they prefer the less confrontational contact.

I usually text the girl a day or two after I get her number and just say "Hey It's Alex from the other night. How about we get together on (whatever day you want) and hangout?"

I really don't think it's awkward at all to go on dates with girls that you don't know at all. It's worked for me many times, I don't see why it can't work for anyone else. If the girl flakes or doesn't reply, then who cares? She probably sucks anyways.

You just have to be cool, confident, and act YOURSELF in your first impression. Fvck all this BS about pick up lines, negs, and stuff like that. It's all good for practice in the beginning.. But as long as you have a sense of humor and you're laid back you're golden.

Just don't wait forever to hit her up, she'll probably figure she didn't mean anything to you.. Or that you were too nervous to talk to her and finally worked up the courage. Just do it when you feel like it, don't be nervous.. It's just a girl.
awesome post.
 

Tortendieb

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I must admit that texting has worked better for me too. I always thought it's to unpersonal and not ballsy enough, but somehow many people act really scared when you call them.

For that reason facebook PMs are ok too. I know you will thrash me for it but it is my experience.
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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