How to get back to her place?

[Neon Owl]

Meeting a lass from POF tomorrow night for a drink but for various reasons can't invite her back to my place if things go well. I'm pretty sure she'll be driving to meet me and she only lives a couple miles away from where we're meeting.
I was wondering if you fellas have any ideas how I can get her to ask me back to her place without actually verbalising that I want to take her home to fvck?
She states on her profile that she doesn't like players.

 

[zinc4]

Don't listen to her profile...i am meeting a girl from POF right here at my place tonight in about 15 minutes here...and she says the same type of crap on her profile and that she is only looking for a long term relationship....blah blah blah....

She texted me saying it was raining so she couldn't make it...i then said well i have a good flick for a rainy day meet me at my place and gave her my address...boom she is on her way right now...just say it man..don't be afraid...i will be making out with this chick here very shortly and most likely banging the hell out of her as well and no BS meetup before my place for a drink or coffee........so just do it....POF girls are for banging quickly...don't let their BS profiles fool you....and every woman is secretly or not so secretly attracted to a player...

 

[Neon Owl]

I see what you're saying and I agree, however I think it's a bad idea to come right out and say 'let's go back to your place to fvck'.
I need some sort of excuse so she can claim innocence about bringing me back for sex...like 'why don't we go back to yours for some drinks seeing as you can't have more than 1' as she's driving to meet me.
Like with the girl you're meeting if you'd straight up said 'never mind that it's raining come to mine and I'll fvck your brains out' there's very little chance she'd agree to it. You need some sort of excuse so that she can tell herself 'it just happened' without her planning it so she doesn't feel like a slut.

 

[Neon Owl]

Come on guys I'm meeting her tomorrow I need some ideas here.

What can I say to make it clear I want to go back to her place short of telling her I want to fvck?

 

[Neon Owl]

double post

 

[Neon Owl]

Anyone???

I'm setting off in a few hours would be nice to have some ideas!

 

[Flakey_Woman_Suck]

Anyone???

I'm setting off in a few hours would be nice to have some ideas!

Just bring a good movie or something and some beer/wine, and tell her that you can't go back to your place because of *insert reason* and ask her if you guys can watch it at her place.

Good luck.

 

[bukowski_merit]

I almost always have the women come to my place (although I have gone to theirs...) I don't do the whole "let's go on a date first" it's always "your place or mine" for dinner (cooked by one of us) and drinks... That solves the problem on how to get people back to your place (if it goes back - they leave or I do. If it goes good - we continue into the morning and/or fvck.) You should try it sometime... Dinner and drinks at one of your places is easy! (much easier if you're having them come to your place though. When i was living with family a few years ago - I had a rather large hotel bill.)

The best thing I can say is: Don't expect it! Expectations are let-downs waiting to happen.

Just go with the flow of the night...

Something should present itself in the conversation. Don't look for it, it'll find you.

If not: You can tell a story about how you don't normally do dates like these. You feel that getting to know people 1-on-1 is better than out surrounded by tons of people. That all your best dates have been at one of the others house.

You can also use the above to gauge her interest: A girl who's not that into you - will say something like "im not that kind of girl." A girl who is into you - will say "why didn't we do that instead?" ("well there's still time left in the night" with a grin.... would be a good response).

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Next time just try to get the date to the girls house from the start. Learn to navigate the objections from them. For the most part - it's only token resistance and you'll learn that over time.

Just bring a good movie or something and some beer/wine, and tell her that you can't go back to your place because of *insert reason* and ask her if you guys can watch it at her place.

Good luck.

That's actually not a bad idea. But i wouldn't bring one. I'd buy one or rent one and at the VERY beginning of the date mention "I just bought/rented [movie] if this date goes well - we can go back to your place after."

If sex gets brought up during conversations with her, jokingly say "soooo... about this movie we're watching tonight" with a big grin... etc....

Or if she says something weird... joke about how you're def not going back to her place... she might be a serial killer... etc...

 

[Neon Owl]

Cheers fellas that's exactly what I was looking for.

Will report back on how things go tonight. Wish me luck!

 

[Flakey_Woman_Suck]

Cheers fellas that's exactly what I was looking for.

Will report back on how things go tonight. Wish me luck!

Good luck bro!
I'm just gonna sit here and be sad because I got rebounded.
Oh well.. at least the chick was so honest as to tell me after a few dates that she wasn't over her ex yet and didnt' know when she would be.

 

[Neon Owl]

Flakey, that's too bad mate but like you said at least she didn't lead you on!

Date went pretty well she seemed to be into me from her body language and she was asking me questions a lot. There were a few awkward silences but I think that's pretty inevitable on a first meeting isn't it? Kissed her goodbye on the lips but I said the most retarded thing ever as I was walking away...I said 'take it easy' lmfao that's something I say to a mate but not something I'd ever say to a girl. It just came out without thinking.
Not sure if I'll see her again but turns out she lives with her parents still :/ how in the hell am I supposed to escalate things if we meet again? That's gonna be tough.

 

[Flakey_Woman_Suck]

Flakey, that's too bad mate but like you said at least she didn't lead you on!

Date went pretty well she seemed to be into me from her body language and she was asking me questions a lot. There were a few awkward silences but I think that's pretty inevitable on a first meeting isn't it? Kissed her goodbye on the lips but I said the most retarded thing ever as I was walking away...I said 'take it easy' lmfao that's something I say to a mate but not something I'd ever say to a girl. It just came out without thinking.
Not sure if I'll see her again but turns out she lives with her parents still :/ how in the hell am I supposed to escalate things if we meet again? That's gonna be tough.

Nice to hear that the date went well. What did you guys do?
Oh well, awkward silences aren't that bad. You could take it as a sign that maybe she's a bit shy around you because she likes you.

Haha, the ''blurting out things when walking away'' is very recognisable :crackup:. I was walking down the stairs in this chicks house and I just said (because she told me that the staircase-roof was a bit low): ''doesn't this staircase bother you because it's so low?'' xD

 

[Neon Owl]

Nice to hear that the date went well. What did you guys do?
Oh well, awkward silences aren't that bad. You could take it as a sign that maybe she's a bit shy around you because she likes you.

Haha, the ''blurting out things when walking away'' is very recognisable :crackup:. I was walking down the stairs in this chicks house and I just said (because she told me that the staircase-roof was a bit low): ''doesn't this staircase bother you because it's so low?'' xD

Just went for a drink at a local bar but she only had 1 as she was driving. I think I handled the silences pretty well, I just tried to look her in the eyes and sort of raise my eyebrows and give a cheeky/flirty smile to break the awkwardness which made her respond with a smile and giggle.

lol sometimes I think it's best to say nothing than to try think of something to say then you won't end up saying something ridiculous like we did!

 

[Rainman4707]

Flakey, that's too bad mate but like you said at least she didn't lead you on!

Date went pretty well she seemed to be into me from her body language and she was asking me questions a lot. There were a few awkward silences but I think that's pretty inevitable on a first meeting isn't it? Kissed her goodbye on the lips but I said the most retarded thing ever as I was walking away...I said 'take it easy' lmfao that's something I say to a mate but not something I'd ever say to a girl. It just came out without thinking.
Not sure if I'll see her again but turns out she lives with her parents still :/ how in the hell am I supposed to escalate things if we meet again? That's gonna be tough.

I had a couple of dates not long ago. Kiss closed both. Met one in a bar for a drink. It went well. I walked her to her car & this was the convo when we stopped
Me: So, how good a kisser would you say you were on a scale of 1-10
Her: An 8 =)
Me: Hmm you look like you wanna kiss me right now
Her: Hmm do you wanna kiss me
Me: Yes i do.
We snogged.
Her: Well what did you think
Me: Yeah pretty good, you know..you could twist my arm to come back to
yours for a cup of tea
Her: Oh i would, but the kids are in.
Me: Ok, no bother. Then we small talked a little & went our seperate ways.

Next day i had drink with another bird that went well, but she lived with her parents & so do i.
I know were you're coming from. If i had my own place i could of said "You can come back to mine if you twist my arm for a quick cuppa"
It dose'nt seem as conspicuous as trying to fuc* close her in the car or driving somewhere quiet lol.
After this i felt i needed to channel all my energy into getting my own place.