Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
Interesting, I bet MOST guys do not ever get to experience a threesome though...although I am sure it is most guys #1 fantasy!!Originally posted by Dante1a
Something that has worked for me in several situations was taught to me by a PUA friend.
You get both girls alone (preferably sitting a blanket on the floor, etc). Mention that this friend of yours who is a holistic healer (or shaman, or whatever) had you receive a two on one massage.
Tell them he promised it would balance your 'energies' by being able to draw on the superior balances of two people (instead of one person's possible energy difficencies.)
Get one girl (probably the one who wants the LTR) and have her lay down first. You and the other girl start massaging her. When that is done, get the other girl to lay down (try to get the shirt off at some point, but no big deal yet. Then, unabashedly start kissing the girl your massaging with..the other will join in most likely.
Don't apologize for wanting sex or a threesome. The only difference between a LTR girl and a HB at this point is if you call her after the sex. Don't push though..let it happen. Make it a "new experience". lol Tell her that if she objects.
I've also been told this exact scenario is in this book "The Game." I haven't checked it out yet, but maybe that's where my friend got it.
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.