"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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How to get a girl to emotionally invest ?

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I'm being dating a girl for 2 month, but she seems that she is not emotionally investing into the relationship. I mean she seems to be indifference, whatever I do she doesn't care. This is actually a bad sign it means I might get dump soon. She actually just got out of a relationship of 5 years, so she is actually emotionally closed. My question is how can I get her to emotionally invest into the relationship?
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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ubercat

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[double sigh] 1 this isn't a tip and 2 - you haven't read the DJ bible.

You shouldn't be trying to get a girl to invest. You should be plating, and screening to see which ones are investing. Go read the bible - that is the entrance price.
 

sph21

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You're obviously trying to become feminine by trying to make her investing in a relationship. Stop this! It's her job to create emotional connections to you. If she doesn't want to do her job, then you should not do hers. It's just plain stupid. I suggest you to read The Way of the Superior Man-David Deida to understand how to become a real man.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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