"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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How to get a girl to emotionally invest ?

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I'm being dating a girl for 2 month, but she seems that she is not emotionally investing into the relationship. I mean she seems to be indifference, whatever I do she doesn't care. This is actually a bad sign it means I might get dump soon. She actually just got out of a relationship of 5 years, so she is actually emotionally closed. My question is how can I get her to emotionally invest into the relationship?
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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ubercat

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[double sigh] 1 this isn't a tip and 2 - you haven't read the DJ bible.

You shouldn't be trying to get a girl to invest. You should be plating, and screening to see which ones are investing. Go read the bible - that is the entrance price.
 

sph21

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You're obviously trying to become feminine by trying to make her investing in a relationship. Stop this! It's her job to create emotional connections to you. If she doesn't want to do her job, then you should not do hers. It's just plain stupid. I suggest you to read The Way of the Superior Man-David Deida to understand how to become a real man.
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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