How to get a girl to call

[TheTraveller]

The girl I'm currently dating seems very interested. We've been on 3 great dates, f-closed on date 3 and looking to get to know this girl more and have fun. Don't get me wrong, when we're together everything is awesome.

She always answers my calls (or will return my call) in which I set up a date. This is not the problem.

The problem is she has not been as forward as some other girls I've dated in the past. Other girls have given their own suggestions for dates occasionally, have called occasionally and especially around or after the 3rd date.

She was over last night into this morning. Should I call her tonight just to check in with the usual post-first-time-f-close-with-new girl call (and is this necessary if they spent the next morning until about noon with me?) ? Should I hold off on calling to see if she initiates? Should I suggest to her when calling her tonight that *she should call me* in a few days and suggest a 4th date spot?

This one's worthy of pursuing by I don't know why or if she's holding back.

cheers,
-t

 

[Scaramouche]

Dear Traveller,
Be grateful for what you got,relax try not to be controlling and there will be plenty more.....When you have something to do she might find interesting,just ring and tell her what you are doing anyhow,ask if she wants to tag along......for the first few dates try and avoid the impression that involvement with you implies ending in svx.

 

[jophil28]

The girl I'm currently dating seems very interested. We've been on 3 great dates, f-closed on date 3 and looking to get to know this girl more and have fun. Don't get me wrong, when we're together everything is awesome.

She always answers my calls (or will return my call) in which I set up a date. This is not the problem.

The problem is she has not been as forward as some other girls I've dated in the past. Other girls have given their own suggestions for dates occasionally, have called occasionally and especially around or after the 3rd date.

She was over last night into this morning. Should I call her tonight just to check in with the usual post-first-time-f-close-with-new girl call (and is this necessary if they spent the next morning until about noon with me?) ? Should I hold off on calling to see if she initiates? Should I suggest to her when calling her tonight that *she should call me* in a few days and suggest a 4th date spot?

This one's worthy of pursuing by I don't know why or if she's holding back.

cheers,
-t

All that agonizing about whether you should call her tonight ot not, and whether she SHOULD be calling you and offering date suggestions is just PUA static.
All girls behave differently in many ways, BUT most behave similarly after the first F close.. It is a mistake to "track" women and analyse their behavior when their behavior is benefiting you, and an even bigger mistake to believe that you need to "work" at dating.

Your mission is to quit agonising and just continue to be the guy who got her juices flowing in the first place - just keep doing more of what you have been doing.

 

[TheTraveller]

All that agonizing about whether you should call her tonight ot not, and whether she SHOULD be calling you and offering date suggestions is just PUA static.
All girls behave differently in many ways, BUT most behave similarly after the first F close.. It is a mistake to "track" women and analyse their behavior when their behavior is benefiting you, and an even bigger mistake to believe that you need to "work" at dating.

Your mission is to quit agonising and just continue to be the guy who got her juices flowing in the first place - just keep doing more of what you have been doing.

I hear ya, jophil. What I've been doing is actually not work at all. But what's this about most behaving similarly after the first F close? What does that mean? She seemed pretty much the same after the first makeout session as she did after the first f-close (yes, she did have fun in bed) in terms of her personality and how she acted around me.

-t

 

[jophil28]

But what's this about most behaving similarly after the first F close? What does that mean? She seemed pretty much the same after the first makeout session as she did after the first f-close (yes, she did have fun in bed) in terms of her personality and how she acted around me.

-t

Think on this -
You and she go out on a few dates, and then F her around date 2/3/4 . At this point most women have sky high IL in you. You have her in the palm of your hand (so to speak ) .She is strongly attracted to you because of who you are and what she sees in you - your behavior, your manner, your "ways" , your social value and so on .

And what happens next is that most guys start to 'think and worry' about how to hook her without realizing she is YOUR'S to have already.
The next thing they do is to start to act as if she is about to get away .
So their behavior changes from 'intriguing, cool guy' to ' people pleasing predictable boring guy'.

Two months later he gets LJBF'ed .

 

[TheTraveller]

Dear Traveller,
Be grateful for what you got,relax try not to be controlling and there will be plenty more.....When you have something to do she might find interesting,just ring and tell her what you are doing anyhow,ask if she wants to tag along......for the first few dates try and avoid the impression that involvement with you implies ending in svx.

how would trying to avoid the impression that dates end in svx be a good method of approach? Does anybody have any 4th date ideas that do not involve dinner or outdoor hikes or a DVD which were essentially our first 3 (excellent) dates? I was thinking something competitive and active but it's freaking cold and winter here. Skating is out of the question. Dancing maybe but it'd be odd on a one on one 4th date I'd think.