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Best. Tip. Evarr!Originally posted by rgeere
And don't forget the tequilla!
You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?
Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.
One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.
Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.
Best. Tip. Evarr!Originally posted by rgeere
And don't forget the tequilla!
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
I've been dating a latina loca for about a year. I don't know about the eye contact comment....butOriginally posted by cinephile
Thanks for the responses everybody.
No, not all girls are the same.
There are certain thinks which are unique to Latins that we don't see in American women.
1. It is hard to get eye conatct with them. They will deliberately try to look away from you.
2. They don't think anything about being 20 to 40 minutes late.
3. Latin women don't dress down. Yeah, they may be casual, but they always try to look their best. Latin American is actually the world's largest consumer of makeup.
4. They really seem to require a lot more social proof before anything.
Now I am talking about girls from Latin America, not the J Lo wanabee's who were born here and can't speak spanish.
So any other advice/comments?
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.