How to further increase her interest level

[Lucky-Guy]

I've been with this girl from few years. And finally i reached to the point of AFC and did all the mistakes that an average person do. How ever, by luck i learnt too much from few ebooks and forums so finally got her back and it took some time but finally she is back almost into tge Honeymoon stage as she likes spending most of her time with me, tease me alot and she is nicest person again. Most of the time we talk on facebook (Please don't say that texts messages, facebook and other aim conversation is bad as I have to so it sometimes)

So i heard in few websites that we should keep the amount of our texts lower as compared to hers and all. But on facebook, during an on going conversation people sometimes have even 3 topics going on at the same time and thus sometimed send upto 3-4 messages altogether and get the same in return as well. You get what i tried to explain. So is his okay or should i keep it as small and as less messages as possible?

Second thing is how can I make her desire me more without creating any negativity of ignoring and etc ?

 

[adam225]

Improve yourself. The higher value you are to her, the more she will appreciate you. Also, if you get a few other women interested in you, her interest will shoot up SKY HIGH.

 

[Lucky-Guy]

Any more advices on this?
And sometimes I get the feeling that the conversation we had was going dull, boring. Does this neccessarily mean that she must have felt same boredom?

 

[marmel75]

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[Jariel]

It sounds to me like you've become complacent. This is where things start to go downhill in relationships, when her eyes start wandering to other guys and she starts wondering if the grass is greener.

Unfortunately there are no quick tricks to turn this around. Like Adam said, it's time to start improving yourself and focus less on her.

In terms of psychology, people value more what is rare or unavailable, so become less available. Avoid seeing her once in a while and say you've got something on. Make her wait for text messages or mails.

Another thing to understand is that uncertainty increases how much she'll think about you and how much she'll care about you. You have to let her guess more about you. Don't tell her everything. Let her know you're meeting friends, but don't tell her who they are or where you're going. Don't text her to say goodnight every night. Learn to leave her hanging.

And don't keep reassuring her, stop making her feel secure, because I made this mistake more than once and all it does is allow you to be taken for granted and that's the last place you want to be.

Most of this will feel uncomfortable, but this is good. It shows you're being a challenge, keeping the interest alive. When you're too comfortable, things get boring...and the relationship starts to wane.

 

[JoeMarron]

Jarial nailed it and everyone else made good points as well. Increase your value by being in shape, looking stylish, making more money, all the common sense stuff. Invest less in her than she is in you. Investment is anything from asking her on a date, initiating conversation, buying her gifts, and complimenting her. Basically make her put more work in than you. Completely ravage her in bed. Do all of this right and you'll have a bona fied love slave on your hands

 

[Jariel]

Take a look at this video. It gives some good insight. A lot of this really applies to me in my last relationship.

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=E2lwNe-sTtA