"The Kiss of Death Mistake"

You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?

Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.

One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.

Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.

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how to flirt with one woman in a group without ruining my chances with the rest?

fieu

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I'm in a group of people that meets once or twice a week. I like a few of the women in that group and I want to try my chances with all of them.

I intent to start with the one that seems more open to me and then proceed to the rest. Whether I succeed or not doesn't matter to me, what I want is to be able to have a shot with all of them, one by one. I'm afraid that if they see me flirt with one (whether she responds or not) I'll sabotage my attempt with the rest because a woman that sees me first flirting with another might think:

Oh, so he likes her more than me. I'm the Plan B..
Or:

Oh, so this guy isn't serious, he's willing to get whatever he can get.
There is the apparent choice of only flirting in private, but lets talk about what are my options if I can't manage to make this happen.

I'm 37 (I look younger, maybe even 27) and most of the women there are 20 to 26, so that gives me an advantage on intellect. However... I'm very inexperienced in flirting, let alone having a brief affair or a long term relationship. I probably wouldn't attempt the later with woman 10+ years younger than me, anyway. I'm not a virgin and I've made out with a few women. I'm bellow average on social awkwardness.

I see this situation as an experience that'll teach me things, and I want to experiment and learn from my mistakes. I want to do mistakes. That's the way it works for me. What I'm asking is advice on how to avoid the big mistakes so will ruin my chances to continue the experience.

I don't have a goal (i.e. manage to sleep with one of them). What I'm after is to feel a naturality in flirting and an infatuation. I feed on the mutual attraction that exists between me and a woman and the game that unfolds from that.

I want to play nice, so no pick-up artistry that plays on people's insecurities (i.e. Eric von Markovik's stuff). I appreciate and like these women. I want to be gentle with them.
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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Alvafe

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make it as a joke flirt, if anyone complain ask jealous? jokes are a nice way to tell the truth and people don't hold against you, all jokes have some truth behind then, if not said Idea would never happen
 
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