"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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How to escalate hanging out to better things

Kev07

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One of my friends IMed me today telling me she lost her phone. I made a comment about what she will do when her ex calls her and tells her about how much he loves her and all that(she told me on friday that she broke up with her bf, but he keeps being clingy, w/e)

after a few IM exchanges, she tells me she wants to hang out tomorrow, so I set up something, just told her I'll give her a call tomorrow and we'll hang out, she asked where, but I kept her guessing( well actually i have no clue where we'll hang out lol)

I've never escalated before, how should I do this?
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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FLIRT with her. Goddamn. How do you expect to progress forward if you were to never attempt to progress forward.

And WHILE you're flirting with her, teasing her or whatnot, you should be running game. I did it online again, just a work chick, but I chatted about mundane stuff, with a dash of flirting, and I blew it wide open when we got into age. And since I read people really well, I know she thinks I'm cute, even though she wouldn't tell me (Exact words from her being... "I don't give compliments easy, so take what you got and smile"), after I asked her for a rating on me on awesomeness and cuteness after she mentioned she thought I was cool.

Point being, you should never NOT flirt with a girl.
 

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Kev07 said:
I flirt all the time, I hope it's enough

How will I know when to go for it though
When you either/combine;
- Setting it up on purpose. (Indirectly discovering her feelings though well selected questions, deductive reasoning)
- Kino Escalation + Give her that look
- Flat out sexual vibe. (You know I want to nail you, and I put it out for you to take me up on that)

Hell, maybe she'll come onto you without you doing a damn thing, that works too! :eek:


But that's it. There's no hard fast way about it. You either make it happen or you don't.
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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