"The Kiss of Death Mistake"

You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?

Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.

One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.

Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.

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How to end conversations? Abruptly or Politely?

Paarth Shah

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Just wanted to see what others thought is the best way.

Scenario: You text to set up a date for later in the week. She says yes, then do you simply say: "Perfect" and then just send her a confirmation day of date or do you let them know with something like this: "Perfect, we'll confirm later in the week."

My instinct is to go for the latter option but I just wanted to see what everyone thought. Obviously I feel once you get up to date #3 and above, it seems kinda redundant and predictable if you set up a date and tell her you're going to confirm on day of. No? yes? What do you all think?
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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EyeBRollin

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Never confirm dates.

Once she says yes, a simple thumb up emoji, or "great, see you there" will suffice.

There is no checking in necessary. It makes you look weak to confirm dates.
 

Mazer

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I have had success confirming dates a few hours before or waiting for them to reach out to me to confirm. If she is interested it makes no difference. We really need a sticky on these type of redundant questions. Not sure if the bible answers this question on confirming dates.
 
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