"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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how to emotionally detach and be a pua

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I am beginning to get good at picking up women. I like doing it, and I enjoy the sex but when the 'relationship' ends, as it will, I kind of feel slightly emotionally involved, kind of like the lesser pain of splitting from a girlfriend.

To give you an example, I met a girl from America in a bar, she was an exchange student, so I took her out for a few weeks, we had an awesome time, enjoyed her company, then she went back to America. I knew it was going to happen, so i'm not really sad or hurt, just feel a bit funny.

Recently I met another girl, took her out a few times, great sex, now i'm getting the old 'not answering my call bit, which is obviously blowing me out in the same way we blow girls out. Feel a bit weird about that too.

It's strange, on the one hand I don't want a serious relationship with these girls, and I want to sleep with lots of women, but at the same time I really like these girls and miss them when it's over...kind of.


Does anybody else feel like this?
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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Yeah, I get this way sometimes too. It usually doesn't happen to ONS, but if I invest any decent amount of time with a girl (like a couple of weeks) I do feel somewhat attached, especially after sex. It's best if you both know the situation and realize that it won't get past a certain point. Unfortunately for a few girls, I failed to give them the notice. I don't really have any solid advice, because I kind of suffer from this as well, what I usually do is replace the feelings with another girl.
 
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That sounds completely normal to me. Why would you ever want to emotionally detach yourself from people you invest in?

Maybe your asking the wrong question. Emotional detachment is not glamorous by any means.
 
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fonz, you make a very good point...how on earth are we to pick up all the women that we want to and not feel bad? or is this feeling a natural curse that goes with the game?
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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The question you really need to ask yourself is: Do you really want to be a PUA?
 
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