How to do deal with HB's high expectations?

[WatchMeWalk]

Hi everybody! It's been a long time since I asked for help here but I need it now big-time.

I've been hanging out with a Thai HB9. We share a couple of film classes and have a lot in common. Problem is that the possibility of an LTR is bleak because I'm Jewish and my family has very strong (but justified) issues against assimilation. If she wasn't oriental and I had my own pad dating her wouldn't be so problematic.
We haven't started officially dating yet but I know that all I have to do is say the word. She shows all the starry-eyed signs of infatuation. She's even been concocting excuses for us to spend more time together in a platonic pretence. Should I just step up to the plate and tell her frankly that an LTR would just cause too much drama in my household or should I be more subtle?

 

[So pimp its scary]

That is different then the title implies...

Why do you have to introduce this girl to your parents?

 

[Rallfus]

Don't put the cart in front of the carrage. Ask her out, if she says yes, you go out. If she says no, problem with parents is solved.

Don't start thinking way ahead, that's how you sabotage your DJing.

 

[PuertoRican_Lover]

Ralfus got it right.

I guess your only option in life is jewish women, if you follow your parents dictates. This narrows your 'playing' field dramaticallly.

You should bring a Islamic Black girl home and shock your parents into having a heart attack and then you will no longer have to worry about meeting their expectations!!

This is something I would do - but you are not me!

 

[WatchMeWalk]

All the jewish girls I've dated have invariably proved to be self-absorbed primadonnas who treated life like a popularity contest

 

[captn caveman]

Originally posted by Rallfus
Don't start thinking way ahead, that's how you sabotage your DJing.

This maybe one of the top five sentences Iread in the forum..

Not just for this post, but for almost all problems,

This sentence is part of the solution!!

 

[olderandwiser]

Widen your horizions -

Tired of JAPS?

Try PAPS


P_ersian
A_merican
P_rinceseS


or GAPS


G_reek
A_merican
P_rincesseS

LOL - They mess with your head too!

Try opening your mind. There has not been *pure* jewish people since the Roman legions smashed the hebrew sub-state
of the Roman Empire in 70AD and sold them into slavery of arabs, indians and germanic/celtic tribes.

 

[E-Z Rider]

Originally posted by WatchMeWalk
All the jewish girls I've dated have invariably proved to be self-absorbed primadonnas who treated life like a popularity contest

LOL! That is my experience (although I only dated one jew (I'm not jewish myself), and while she wasn't BLATANTLY like you describe...when you get to know her and then step back and look- yeah that's her).

Realize that this has nothing to do with your parents. It's about you- don't settle for a girl you don't really like just b/c she pleases your parents.

I say go for it- you obviously dig her. It's not like you're going to marry her just b/c you date her- and if you two wind up really falling in love then I don't think you'll care about your parent's desire for the ethnical purity of their grandchildren. And I'll bet you if they see their son is happy with this girl, they'll get over it.

A woman like this is a rare opportunity. Even for a happening, top-of-his-game guy, a worthy chick who is really interested is pretty rare when you consider the hundreds of rejections he faces. Don't pass it up for something you yourself don't believe in.

Hope that helped- E-Z

 

[ToP DoN]

If you cant be with her on a LTR

then why dont u just be with her on a short term basis...you barely know the girl and already want a long term relatonship? just date her and hit it and if you hit it off then all good...but to worry about ehr meeting your parents now? its too early...

 

[MR_PERFECT]

If you need your parents approval you are not yet a man. I don't think you deserve her.