"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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How to disco dance

Matt Rogers

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Hi. I had a date recently with a really hot girl which went very well. I got her laughing, asking questions about me, and she even indirectly set up a date with me, mentioning a hall of residence disco and asking if I was going to be there. I said I was, and she said she looked forwards to seeing me there.

I figure this would be an ideal time to get some quality kino in and maybe even get a first kiss in, but I am hopeless at dancing. I can sort of sway a bit and move my feet when dancing with friends, but am useless at dancing with partners.

Any advice on how I can bluff my way through the evening? I am OK with slow music as I can just put my hands on her shoulders or waist, draw her towards me and sway a bit, but not so good on the faster stuff.

I also want to learn to do that thing where you get the girl to lean back while you have her in a dancing hold so you can kiss her. I have seen this done in the movies and it is really romantic.

Cheers
Matt
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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check_mate_kid_uk

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get dance lessons and for a qucik fix method try and find a freind that can give you some tips, show you the basics, or you can buy a DVD or video showing how to dance and try and copy it, just dont expect to be great in 1 week.
 

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Watch Saturday Night Fever starring John Travolta!
 

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^^^ Haha, Once in a night club I saw an asian dude on one of those elevated stages who was doing Travolta moves. I began copying him and got some weird looks from girls :D
 

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Just try to vary your moves based on the music, move your hips and shoulders, and make sure you move around a little as well as swaying.

Also if you see some guy getting a lot of attention from chicks on the dancefloor, simply mirror his movements, he won't notice and you'll be relaxed knowing you're not making a complete fool of yourself.

As for dancing with a chick, yeah that's harder, just try to go with the flow and don't whatever you do tread on her toes!.
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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