"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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How to determine if a girl is DTF or not?

green69

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I'm totally lost here I admit, and I've always been puzzled by this. How do you know if a girl is DTF or not? I always hear stories about person x fvcking person y without really dating or anything. I always seem to go on at least 3-4 dates before anything meaningful physically happens (usually a kiss by date 2) but I hear through friends and what not about people hooking up like it's no big deal.

There are a lot of girls I wouldn't mind hooking up with, but I'm not sure what to do/say in order to get things going. Usually when sex happens for me it just evolves from going on a bunch of dates with a girl and by then it's basically a relationship already. Of course drunken club sluts are an exception, but most the time it's hard for me to get action right away as I'm worried about offending the girl so I end up going on a bunch of dates before I escalate things.
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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gaspipe

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It depends on the chicks personality. The aggressive ones usually will make the first move sexually or at least give you clear signals that they are ready. If shes kind of shy then learning to read body language becomes important. Ive become pretty good at this so I know more often than not when a girl is DTF just by observing her BL.

You also have to remove the notion that making a move on a girl is offensive. To the contrary a girl will feel offended if you dont make a move on her soon enough. If possible always go for the kiss on the first date or meeting. Waiting 3-4 dates to escalate is simply too long. NEVER EVER become ashamed of your sexuality. Normal chicks dig guys who have no shame of expressing their sexuality.

Personally, its gotten to a point that if Im not able to escalate by the second date, I usually ditch the girl as a waste of time.
 

Deadly_Ripped

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Well, I believe that The Situation just asks them, "Yo, are you DTF?"
 

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How do you know if a girl is DTF or not?
This is the Ultimate Question that men have been asking since circa 45,083 BC. You figure that one out and you will become a billionaire within a year.
 

Upside

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If you are dating your average chick who is neither a merry-go-round nor a celibate prude then I think your doing just fine. In my eyes you need to do at LEAST the following to be on your way:

Date 1: Kiss
Date 2: Heavy Make Out
Date 3: The Deed

OR

Date 3: Oral
Date 4: Deed

For me this is more of a general guideline to know if you are wasting your time or not. Like if it is date 5 and you haven't even kissed yet she either likes to move real slow or doesn't intend to do anything anytime soon.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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