how to deal with this?

[Ryan Adams]

ok me and chick have known each other for maybe a month have snuggled in the same bed drunk once [lame I know] made out etc etc no sex though. but I only hit her up on weekends. and any bar I tell her to go to she will show up. I mean when she gets drunk she obviously likes me but I see her flirting with other guys. we're aren't together so it's all good but it does make me a little jealous naturally but I'll go and flirt with to other Chicks. but how do I make this something more?

 

[user43770]

Well, she's obviously a party girl. Their attention is fickle and can't be depended on.

You shouldn't put much care on her, either. Party girls are a dime a dozen. All you have to do is go to a random bar to meet one.

To answer your question, just be drunk around her enough times, run some half-decent game and you'll probably end up waking up next to her. That might not be a good thing, though.

She might have blacked out the night before and slap you with a rape charge. At which point you'll want to kill yourself.

Good luck!

 

[Ryan Adams]

so don't even invest any time in it?

 

[Ryan Adams]

I usually wait about a week in between texts and only see her Friday night's lol. but yeah I'm gonna start making her either put up or shutup. she obviously has a crush on me but its annoying because I don't want just casually flirt with her and get nothing. it's bs

 

[marmel75]

You escalate. I mean seriously what typr of question is this? You isolate her at the bar and then escalate and get her turned on and suggest you go somewhere else and get up and take her by the hand and leave...

Then you bang her back out once you get to where ever you are going.

 

[derby1]

Is this the same woman as your other posts?

Also I've told you before ....snuggles

What kind of man uses the word snuggles ?

I'm being serious OP, theres a reason this woman hasn't let you put your **** in her yet ? Ever wondered why?

Theres method in our madness ....start taking note

 

[Ryan Adams]

I've tried these techniques she always has a friend with her and I kinda always get **** blocked. everyone says that she's in love with me but I've even been in her bed and all she did was try to "cuddle put her head on my chest etc etc. in her defense it was 4 am and she had to get up at like 7 am so she was dead tired but she just loves the attention. I'm going to go no contact shes a party girl who loves attention. not worth my time anymore

 

[derby1]

good lad trust your gut, dont ignore reality

everyone says that she's in love with me

im going to be honest with ya you give off an Aura of "IVE READ THE BOOK BOYS IVE READ THE BOOK!! NOW TELL ME HOW TO GET IN HER PANTS"
tongue hanging out like fido

you havent took note of anything pal the very first thing A DJ learns you dont trust words ! yet youve gone and put "everyone says shes in love with me"

this has sent your hamster wheel spinning which again means youve took note of nothing at all

you also have "shes the one" syndrome

come on ryan for someone with a higher post count you really should be picking this stuff up

 

[Ryan Adams]

thats why I come on here and vent so I don't make the mistake with her lol. but yeah I'm giving her no more of my attention it's just not worth my time. I still need to get my hat from her though. I am getting better at this but when still get oneitis like a m0therfvckr.

 

[Murk]

What you seriously need to do is try to meet other women and stop making this attention wh0re the centre of your universe. Your threads are whack and beta, I dread to think how you are with her in real life.

 

[derby1]

Your threads are whack and beta, I dread to think how you are with her in real life.

this ^^^ @Murkserious myself and any other experienced member will tell you this aswell. women have radars for your behaviour !! they figure stuff out at a sub concious level

a little like a child who knows he can getaway with stuff and his moms soft, he doesnt actually think out loud "MY MOMS A D$CK HEAD PUSHOVER" cause he loves her!! but deep down he subconciously knows he can fck her about

women think exactly like this, i dread to think what your like in real life

forget the cap for christs sake it is still creepy behaviour because really its so you can see her!!!!!!!!

or drop her a text in a few days time and say "could you drop my cap off" if she says come and get it ignore her

simply because you are so sub missive to this woman you need to restore some self respect

 

[Ryan Adams]

I agree I'm a clingy oneitis guy! she texted me yesterday about the night i just ignored her. I have alot of work to do with myself. in real life with her I don't follow her around or anything like that but Im sure I give off a clingy vibe. about my hat... that's truly is my favorite hat and I do want it back

 

[Murk]

What happened to the plan of going to hers this weekend to grab it? I know some guys here mocked the "game playing" nature of it, but you're in a position where you have to make the most of what you have and that was a great opportunity to get over to her place in the evening and escalate to sex.

 

[Ryan Adams]

well I was on schedule to work Saturday and Sunday but another guy took my shift last minute so I didn't even bother asking. I saw her at the bar Friday night that's where I told her to go. I tried to come back with them but her friend wouldn't allow it lol. we chatted a little yesterday. but I haven't answered her since her last text.

 

[derby1]

but her friend wouldn't allow it lol

I dont know whether we are coming or going with this chick anymore ,its getting a bit tedious .From now on you do not go anywhere with her and her mate.

You are only going to go places where you want to go ! ,that is your idea ! ,if she doesnt want come ALONE and mentions her friend ,tell her that your not up for this scenario and to end your text with "keep in touch" then do not contact her again.

She will message you again and you will rinse and repeat the above advice ONE more time only .You will do no idle chit chat [texts] .

Ryan is so popular with the ladies he has no time for messing about . Your either in or out .Thats his mentality !!! [however do not say your either in or out in a text like an idiot ! ]

 

[Ryan Adams]

I will. from this point on should i wait for her to text me or reach out to her? (I haven't responded to her last text) since yesterday.

 

[derby1]

If she sent the last text. Send her a text saying "you are going X on X day and it would be cool if she joined you, just the two of you"....anything but "I'd love that reply"...totally ignore

 

[Ryan Adams]

gotcha. thing is I deleted her number from my phone so I wouldn't be an idiot and drunk text her.

fvck

 

[derby1]

Shes not on your fb ? Hello X ive had a new phone lost contacts here's my number WhatsApp me,"

Use your brain OP is this what ya like in real life? And your wondering why her and her mate are controlling ya

 

[Ryan Adams]

true