"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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How to deal with the angry loud mouths

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Okay theres this girl that just pisses me off. She's always have an attitiude and runs her mouth and always starts big arguements. She's one of those comment on everything girls that just annoys you. She's type that will say something to you, you something back and she cuts you off and says "shut up stop talking"(sometimes she playing around by other times dead serious). Thing is I can't avoid her because she's always at all of our youth activities for my church. I was just wondering what can I do 'deal' with this girl.


Another thing (I have two questions), this girl that I'm real cool with:D, was in acting crazy yesterday. She was at dance practice and she was getting real frustrated because they weren't performing right. I was in charge of the music and she keep teling me to turn the music on (her and the girl above). I'll turn it on and when they stop dancing I'll turn it off and turn it on when they were ready to try it again. Her and her partners was getting yelled at by her mom about their complaining. The music was off at the time so then she eventually randomly yelled "TURN IT ON!" I told her to chill out cuz she was trippin. Then she goes "DON'T TELL ME TO CHILL OUT!" I don't like to agrue so ignored her and left it at that. Then later she asked me in a very normal way "rkc09 can you please turn it up" later on she started playfully teasing me like "omg your horrible at your job" (while laughing) I don't know what the was going on because I was still mad about her yelling at me. It just seem weird. I was gonna text her but I don't want to act nothing happen. I was pretty pissed about her yelling at me like that. But she later started acting like it never nothing happen. Idk, should I just forget about it?
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Are you trying to lay her??(get laid) Or just want her to just shut up??

If you want her to shut up just ignore her.She'll prolly miss your absence of speaking back, but fu(k it. Sounds like a total b1t(h to me.
 

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ExcelNPrevail said:
Are you trying to lay her??(get laid) Or just want her to just shut up??

If you want her to shut up just ignore her.She'll prolly miss your absence of speaking back, but fu(k it. Sounds like a total b1t(h to me.
The thing is, at times she's a cool girl. But most of the time she's a total BIT**(you know the rest). She'll play around like "shut up stop talking":up: and other times when she's really like "SHUT UP STOP TALKING":down: . I just want to know how to deal with both sides.
 

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So how do I make them respect me?


btw, i need more opinions
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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rkc09 said:
Okay theres this girl that just pisses me off. She's always have an attitiude and runs her mouth and always starts big arguements. She's one of those comment on everything girls that just annoys you. She's type that will say something to you, you something back and she cuts you off and says "shut up stop talking"(sometimes she playing around by other times dead serious). Thing is I can't avoid her because she's always at all of our youth activities for my church. I was just wondering what can I do 'deal' with this girl.


Another thing (I have two questions), this girl that I'm real cool with:D, was in acting crazy yesterday. She was at dance practice and she was getting real frustrated because they weren't performing right. I was in charge of the music and she keep teling me to turn the music on (her and the girl above). I'll turn it on and when they stop dancing I'll turn it off and turn it on when they were ready to try it again. Her and her partners was getting yelled at by her mom about their complaining. The music was off at the time so then she eventually randomly yelled "TURN IT ON!" I told her to chill out cuz she was trippin. Then she goes "DON'T TELL ME TO CHILL OUT!" I don't like to agrue so ignored her and left it at that. Then later she asked me in a very normal way "rkc09 can you please turn it up" later on she started playfully teasing me like "omg your horrible at your job" (while laughing) I don't know what the was going on because I was still mad about her yelling at me. It just seem weird. I was gonna text her but I don't want to act nothing happen. I was pretty pissed about her yelling at me like that. But she later started acting like it never nothing happen. Idk, should I just forget about it?
kill the schizofrenic b!tch








Not really you sick bastard.
:p
just deal with it by not letting her effect you. Its a Sh!t test. Dont react emotionally to her attitude, stay unreactive. Dont give into her frame. You are the man are you not.
 

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Okay I'll do that. How do I deal with the other girl who got loud with me?
 

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Okay theres this girl that just pisses me off. She's always have an attitiude and runs her mouth and always starts big arguements...I was just wondering what can I do 'deal' with this girl.


People who insult others do so because of their own low self-esteem. When you can see how much she hates herself, it is easier to not want to fight back.
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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okay I understand about the first girl, but what do I do with the second girl who I was really building a connection with but then got loud at me?
 

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She was probably pissed off at several different things at the time.

Make a joke out of it....maybe ignore her for awhile...and just keep doing your thing. She'll see what a fun and great guy you are, and you'll have no problems.
 

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For the first one.. I would find something to insult her so bad on that she will be afraid to want to go up against you again..
 
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