Why "Whatever You Want" Keeps You Single

She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.

You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.

The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.

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How to deal with the angry loud mouths

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Okay theres this girl that just pisses me off. She's always have an attitiude and runs her mouth and always starts big arguements. She's one of those comment on everything girls that just annoys you. She's type that will say something to you, you something back and she cuts you off and says "shut up stop talking"(sometimes she playing around by other times dead serious). Thing is I can't avoid her because she's always at all of our youth activities for my church. I was just wondering what can I do 'deal' with this girl.


Another thing (I have two questions), this girl that I'm real cool with:D, was in acting crazy yesterday. She was at dance practice and she was getting real frustrated because they weren't performing right. I was in charge of the music and she keep teling me to turn the music on (her and the girl above). I'll turn it on and when they stop dancing I'll turn it off and turn it on when they were ready to try it again. Her and her partners was getting yelled at by her mom about their complaining. The music was off at the time so then she eventually randomly yelled "TURN IT ON!" I told her to chill out cuz she was trippin. Then she goes "DON'T TELL ME TO CHILL OUT!" I don't like to agrue so ignored her and left it at that. Then later she asked me in a very normal way "rkc09 can you please turn it up" later on she started playfully teasing me like "omg your horrible at your job" (while laughing) I don't know what the was going on because I was still mad about her yelling at me. It just seem weird. I was gonna text her but I don't want to act nothing happen. I was pretty pissed about her yelling at me like that. But she later started acting like it never nothing happen. Idk, should I just forget about it?
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Are you trying to lay her??(get laid) Or just want her to just shut up??

If you want her to shut up just ignore her.She'll prolly miss your absence of speaking back, but fu(k it. Sounds like a total b1t(h to me.
 

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ExcelNPrevail said:
Are you trying to lay her??(get laid) Or just want her to just shut up??

If you want her to shut up just ignore her.She'll prolly miss your absence of speaking back, but fu(k it. Sounds like a total b1t(h to me.
The thing is, at times she's a cool girl. But most of the time she's a total BIT**(you know the rest). She'll play around like "shut up stop talking":up: and other times when she's really like "SHUT UP STOP TALKING":down: . I just want to know how to deal with both sides.
 

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So how do I make them respect me?


btw, i need more opinions
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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rkc09 said:
Okay theres this girl that just pisses me off. She's always have an attitiude and runs her mouth and always starts big arguements. She's one of those comment on everything girls that just annoys you. She's type that will say something to you, you something back and she cuts you off and says "shut up stop talking"(sometimes she playing around by other times dead serious). Thing is I can't avoid her because she's always at all of our youth activities for my church. I was just wondering what can I do 'deal' with this girl.


Another thing (I have two questions), this girl that I'm real cool with:D, was in acting crazy yesterday. She was at dance practice and she was getting real frustrated because they weren't performing right. I was in charge of the music and she keep teling me to turn the music on (her and the girl above). I'll turn it on and when they stop dancing I'll turn it off and turn it on when they were ready to try it again. Her and her partners was getting yelled at by her mom about their complaining. The music was off at the time so then she eventually randomly yelled "TURN IT ON!" I told her to chill out cuz she was trippin. Then she goes "DON'T TELL ME TO CHILL OUT!" I don't like to agrue so ignored her and left it at that. Then later she asked me in a very normal way "rkc09 can you please turn it up" later on she started playfully teasing me like "omg your horrible at your job" (while laughing) I don't know what the was going on because I was still mad about her yelling at me. It just seem weird. I was gonna text her but I don't want to act nothing happen. I was pretty pissed about her yelling at me like that. But she later started acting like it never nothing happen. Idk, should I just forget about it?
kill the schizofrenic b!tch








Not really you sick bastard.
:p
just deal with it by not letting her effect you. Its a Sh!t test. Dont react emotionally to her attitude, stay unreactive. Dont give into her frame. You are the man are you not.
 

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Okay I'll do that. How do I deal with the other girl who got loud with me?
 

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Okay theres this girl that just pisses me off. She's always have an attitiude and runs her mouth and always starts big arguements...I was just wondering what can I do 'deal' with this girl.


People who insult others do so because of their own low self-esteem. When you can see how much she hates herself, it is easier to not want to fight back.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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okay I understand about the first girl, but what do I do with the second girl who I was really building a connection with but then got loud at me?
 

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She was probably pissed off at several different things at the time.

Make a joke out of it....maybe ignore her for awhile...and just keep doing your thing. She'll see what a fun and great guy you are, and you'll have no problems.
 

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For the first one.. I would find something to insult her so bad on that she will be afraid to want to go up against you again..
 
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