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She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

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How To Deal With Rejection From Women

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Rejection is a very difficult obstacle to deal with in everyday life. It is also the toughest roadblock to overcome when you are approaching women. I received a comment from a subscriber that made a lot of sense. He asked me about a situation where I was rejected and how I overcame it. Here’s a story:

I had class with this really hot girl named Ashley. I tried to approach her in class and she seemed very cold and not interested. So, I asked her if she wanted to hang out sometime and she kinda blew me off. I took it to heart and didn’t talk to her for a week. Then, I saw her again the next week and she was looking really hott with a nice skirt and her tan skin was showin too. She was Italian, 5′7, and had grace and style. I’m like everybody else I like a challenge!

I walked up to her and said,“are you normally this cold to guys because I’m not like the other guys… Your coming to this party I’m having this weekend and no is not an acceptable answer.” I know what your thinking I’m out of line and I should get slapped! Well the exact opposite happened… She smiled at me and said, “Ok I’ll come.” Then I said “what’s your number I’ll call you on Friday.” She left me her digits.

There’s something that I did in this situation that was able to turn the table on her being cold towards me. Very attractive women are used to getting their way with guys. Women don’t like nice guys; why is it that really attractive women are attracted to bad boys? I’m not saying to be a jerk to women but the key here is to be able to add a little ****iness to your words and be direct with her. Remember when your saying it to add a little grin; women love the naughty boy grin. Grade school is a good example of this girls loved the boys who teased them more and more. Had I said “hey, do you wanna come to this party?” She would have made an excuse to why she wouldn’t have been able to make it.

When women reject you, never take it to heart. Girls do this to wheat out the nice guys that don’t deserve to be with them. NEVER let rejection affect your game you have to bounce back. It’s like being down in a basketball game and you have the chance to win the game. Are you going to win it or lose it?
 

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bachelor said:
Rejection is a very difficult obstacle to deal with in everyday life. It is also the toughest roadblock to overcome when you are approaching women. I received a comment from a subscriber that made a lot of sense. He asked me about a situation where I was rejected and how I overcame it. Here’s a story:

I had class with this really hot girl named Ashley. I tried to approach her in class and she seemed very cold and not interested. So, I asked her if she wanted to hang out sometime and she kinda blew me off. I took it to heart and didn’t talk to her for a week. Then, I saw her again the next week and she was looking really hott with a nice skirt and her tan skin was showin too. She was Italian, 5′7, and had grace and style. I’m like everybody else I like a challenge!

I walked up to her and said,“are you normally this cold to guys because I’m not like the other guys… Your coming to this party I’m having this weekend and no is not an acceptable answer.” I know what your thinking I’m out of line and I should get slapped! Well the exact opposite happened… She smiled at me and said, “Ok I’ll come.” Then I said “what’s your number I’ll call you on Friday.” She left me her digits.

There’s something that I did in this situation that was able to turn the table on her being cold towards me. Very attractive women are used to getting their way with guys. Women don’t like nice guys; why is it that really attractive women are attracted to bad boys? I’m not saying to be a jerk to women but the key here is to be able to add a little ****iness to your words and be direct with her. Remember when your saying it to add a little grin; women love the naughty boy grin. Grade school is a good example of this girls loved the boys who teased them more and more. Had I said “hey, do you wanna come to this party?” She would have made an excuse to why she wouldn’t have been able to make it.

When women reject you, never take it to heart. Girls do this to wheat out the nice guys that don’t deserve to be with them. NEVER let rejection affect your game you have to bounce back. It’s like being down in a basketball game and you have the chance to win the game. Are you going to win it or lose it?
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Great post, can you give us examples or ways to brush off rejections? Like come backs and such. Not meaning that you need one all the time but for example, one time I got rejected by this mean b*atch at a club, I should off said as I walked away "well I was going to ask you if you wanted to buy me a drink anyways" or just plain "ok, have a nice day!" with a big smile.


I think that the biggest part of rejection is how to handle the after effects. If you at least have some form of way to cop with rejection, then it won't be so bad.
 

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Especially in instances when the girl really gets off from rejection you, like she got all dressed up and that's like the highlight of her night.
 

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Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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think of it like this.

when I sold cars, we had a saying... your job doesn't start until the customer says no for the first time.

too many guys take that first NO and feel stupid for even asking. figure out WHY... she has a BF, great. Try to get around it. Whatever.

If I don't get woman, it's not for a lack of trying. and usually when you show some persistence.. they like it. I've even used it.. "BAbe, you think I would be trying this hard if I wasn't very attracted to you.. I don't do this every day, and I'm not taking no for an answer.. so write your number down..come on now I don't have all day (smiling of course, but pulling my phone out as if i'm serious)

when I sold cars, when the customers said no, it was because 1) they didn't like the price, 2) they didn't like the car, or 3) they didn't like me. usually it was one of the first 2.

Never did I take it personally, I had to eat. Get back out and start grinding
 

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if you get rejected just say ..good because i wanted to hang with a good looking chick any way..hgaha im jokin by the way...nice post man
 

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Frenchconnection said:
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Great post, can you give us examples or ways to brush off rejections? Like come backs and such. Not meaning that you need one all the time but for example, one time I got rejected by this mean b*atch at a club, I should off said as I walked away "well I was going to ask you if you wanted to buy me a drink anyways" or just plain "ok, have a nice day!" with a big smile.


I think that the biggest part of rejection is how to handle the after effects. If you at least have some form of way to cop with rejection, then it won't be so bad.
1. I'm at the gym and I walk up a really hot brunette and say " I know a better way you could work out on this machine" She says I don't need any help! Ill say something like lets see in a few weeks if this machine really works you out haha... This will get her to loosen up some... If shes still being a b*atch, I will walk away... Remember you are the prize and not her... Shes lucky she's talking to you.

2. Im at the beach and a group of girls walk by me... I talk to the hottest one and shes a comple b*atch... I start talking to her friend instead whos cool..

3. This girl at the club rejects me once on the dance floor. She's by the bar I walk up to her and say looks like you cant keep it up on the dance floor... Nine times out of ten shell loosen up... Order some drinks and move on haha
 
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