"The Kiss of Death Mistake"

You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?

Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.

One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.

Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.

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How to deal with one word response-low IL

joverby

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So recently I started using some dating sites. Have been having sh1t luck of course. I can manage to get some responses from girls, even a couple; then they will drop off. When I don't think I did anything stupid, but who knows.(and yes I know it's a crappy method for chicks but I am going to meet them in the real world too, don't worry)

Anyways, I did manage to get a # from one(These are good lookin girls too, at least 6.5-7's). I sent her a text yesterday, just told me what her name was, said she had her daughter and would have to talk to me later.(Again, not looking to be a baby daddy, just lookin for some poon so don't worry)

I just ignored it, figured w/e. She texted me today just asking what was up. I just said "Workin. How about you?" I just got a "Sh1t" back.

Now I understand these girls are going to start w/ low IL considering they've never even seen me in person. But I've had messages on the dating site like that too. I just hate the idea of having to entertain them or prove myself. Just figured the chicks would want to initiate themselves. but then againt hey have dudes throwing themselves at them constantly.

Anyway, what you would say to that lame one word response?
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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pdx1138

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something funny.

"you just stepped in dog sh1t?" make it fun.

Instead of replying with the truth (working) mix it up and again make it fun/exciting.
"Working. How about you?" is flat.

I've been doing some online dating in the last few months myself.

I usually hit them up for a coffee or lunch date within 3 emails.

They or I or both give phone numbers the day before "just in case something comes up."

s.hit luck is normal don't sweat it.

Out of 10 girls I contact I'll only hear back from 3 or 4 which is pretty much the norm.

Keep it up. It's fun and at the very least good practice.
 

Kal_Luke

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I bet chicks on dating websites can"t move for messages off of men who don't get real life poon. It's a buyers market and sadly it's the boys who are selling
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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