Why "Whatever You Want" Keeps You Single

She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.

You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.

The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.

Read more...

How to deal with one word response-low IL

J

joverby

Master Don Juan
Joined
May 12, 2011
Messages
599
Reaction score
9
So recently I started using some dating sites. Have been having sh1t luck of course. I can manage to get some responses from girls, even a couple; then they will drop off. When I don't think I did anything stupid, but who knows.(and yes I know it's a crappy method for chicks but I am going to meet them in the real world too, don't worry)

Anyways, I did manage to get a # from one(These are good lookin girls too, at least 6.5-7's). I sent her a text yesterday, just told me what her name was, said she had her daughter and would have to talk to me later.(Again, not looking to be a baby daddy, just lookin for some poon so don't worry)

I just ignored it, figured w/e. She texted me today just asking what was up. I just said "Workin. How about you?" I just got a "Sh1t" back.

Now I understand these girls are going to start w/ low IL considering they've never even seen me in person. But I've had messages on the dating site like that too. I just hate the idea of having to entertain them or prove myself. Just figured the chicks would want to initiate themselves. but then againt hey have dudes throwing themselves at them constantly.

Anyway, what you would say to that lame one word response?
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

Read more...

P

pdx1138

Master Don Juan
Joined
Feb 24, 2010
Messages
1,298
Reaction score
52
something funny.

"you just stepped in dog sh1t?" make it fun.

Instead of replying with the truth (working) mix it up and again make it fun/exciting.
"Working. How about you?" is flat.

I've been doing some online dating in the last few months myself.

I usually hit them up for a coffee or lunch date within 3 emails.

They or I or both give phone numbers the day before "just in case something comes up."

s.hit luck is normal don't sweat it.

Out of 10 girls I contact I'll only hear back from 3 or 4 which is pretty much the norm.

Keep it up. It's fun and at the very least good practice.
 
K

Kal_Luke

Don Juan
Joined
Aug 4, 2011
Messages
26
Reaction score
1
I bet chicks on dating websites can"t move for messages off of men who don't get real life poon. It's a buyers market and sadly it's the boys who are selling
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

Read more...

You must log in or register to reply here.
22 Rules for Massive Success With Women
Top