Now one thing I never used to do before was the whole approach thing. But I have recently started and I do enjoy the unpredictability of it all. I also enjoy that when I do approach women, I am in control of my life rather than not doing anything and just hoping. With that said, a friend and I went to the beach yesterday, and I decided to talk to a nice looking girl close by, the interaction didn't go well and surprisingly I found that it didn't bother me so much (she did seem like she had her eye on my friend) My friend on the other hand ridiculed the tactic and said that it just looks desperate. This is coming from a guy who is quite good looking and always has women checking him out, so to him the approach seems pathetic and desperate. If that wasn't enough, he said that I'm not the kind of guy who is in demand so it's better not to be pretentious and just end up being disappointed. I did not show him that his comment bothered me, but it did sting. Through my years, I've been with some nice looking girls, but I've also been turned down quite a few times. His remark didn't help at all, and I'm just wondering if all the average guys who are now doing well have had to hear these type of comments and if they were bothered by it and what they did.
"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
How to deal with guys that mock you?
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"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.
scrouds
Master Don Juan
So your "friend" is putting down your efforts. That's a wonderful friend. I'd tell his ass off, and if he doesn't stop the bull****, stop hanging with him
More often than not, you'll find yourself competing with your friends for women. It's in their interest to put you down so that you do not even try with women and they win by default. So yes I'd say it often happens, whether it's so openly said or more implied.
Having said that maybe he has a reason to say you are not in demand. If so work on making yourself such a person but never ever give up on approaching.
Having said that maybe he has a reason to say you are not in demand. If so work on making yourself such a person but never ever give up on approaching.
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user43770
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Don't let your buddy phase you. He's probably jealous of the fact that you can approach an attractive stranger and start a conversation.
"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
You made a big mistake, you broke one of the rules and that was
DON'T APPROACH WHEN WITH FRIENDS! ONLY WITH SARGE BUDDIES!
People that are not involved in the PUA community just don't understand what you are doing. You need to do this with sarge buddies who know what you are doing and will cheer you on and motivate you. Don't go out approaching with people not involved in this stuff.
IF YOU DO THIS WITH FRIENDS:
1. People that know nothing about PUA tactics will criticize you and think you are a moron for doing things which they don't understand.
2. They will often put you down due to jealousy of you being able to talk to a random stranger and trying to pick her up.
3. Another thing that is also known to happen is that word can spread of what you do as a hobbie. You need to keep this on the downlow. Male friends will make fun of you and put you down (what happened in your case). You specially don't want girls knowing you go out and try to pick up other girls.
DON'T APPROACH WHEN WITH FRIENDS! ONLY WITH SARGE BUDDIES!
People that are not involved in the PUA community just don't understand what you are doing. You need to do this with sarge buddies who know what you are doing and will cheer you on and motivate you. Don't go out approaching with people not involved in this stuff.
IF YOU DO THIS WITH FRIENDS:
1. People that know nothing about PUA tactics will criticize you and think you are a moron for doing things which they don't understand.
2. They will often put you down due to jealousy of you being able to talk to a random stranger and trying to pick her up.
3. Another thing that is also known to happen is that word can spread of what you do as a hobbie. You need to keep this on the downlow. Male friends will make fun of you and put you down (what happened in your case). You specially don't want girls knowing you go out and try to pick up other girls.
approaching doesn't make you desperate...either the girl or the guy makes the move and it happens you might not say anything to the girl but you should and should INITIATE or it's never gonna start. now, i feel that you are talking about the direct approaching thing. why would you actually stay quiet and not do anything? well, when a girl checks you out and you check her out and you both know you are checking yourselves out, then what builds up here is sexual tension. remember this one.
and you want that sexual tension always to be there. sexual tension is directly related to value. So approach keeping the sexual tension intact. She must never own you but you must not be unattainable either!
and you want that sexual tension always to be there. sexual tension is directly related to value. So approach keeping the sexual tension intact. She must never own you but you must not be unattainable either!
Ridicule him right back.
Listen, part of being a MAN is being loyal. To friends, family, spouse, whatever. What he did isn't loyal and it's not loyal in a very important part of being a man. Call him on it, question his understanding of friendship (NOT his friendship though), and see if he softens.
If he does, work out a routine to help you out. Having a good-looking friend can be a curse and a blessing. See which one you get.
Listen, part of being a MAN is being loyal. To friends, family, spouse, whatever. What he did isn't loyal and it's not loyal in a very important part of being a man. Call him on it, question his understanding of friendship (NOT his friendship though), and see if he softens.
If he does, work out a routine to help you out. Having a good-looking friend can be a curse and a blessing. See which one you get.
Your friend is just upset because he thinks he's better than you (and he's not).. Yet doesn't have the balls to approach random girls, that's riddiculous for him to say.. how many average dudes have enough chicks approaching them to get layed consistantly? Not many.
He's just a docuhe and he obviously has no respect for you to be so condesending..
End this bromance, he's not a good bud.
He's just a docuhe and he obviously has no respect for you to be so condesending..
End this bromance, he's not a good bud.
"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
Solomon
Master Don Juan
scrouds said:
I concur
when you start improving your self, people who you thought were friends weren't. Get rid of them asap