"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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how to deal with diffiicult respones

joe23

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how do i deal wtih a girl who frequently tries to give difficult responses to test me with? i mean as respond in an alpha male ways, that dont make me look weak.

examples:

me: hey lets hang out this weekend?
girl: um, well i dont know, ill call you later?
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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joe23 said:
how do i deal wtih a girl who frequently tries to give difficult responses to test me with? i mean as respond in an alpha male ways, that dont make me look weak.

examples:

me: hey lets hang out this weekend?
girl: um, well i dont know, ill call you later?
If you get these type of responses every time you suggest a date with her,then more than likely,she's just not that interested in you.



You're focusing on the WRONG end of the spectrum.



Instead of trying to figure out how to answer to these "difficult responses",you should be focusing on what is was that caused her to give them to you in the first place.



If you get these replies just every now and then,it shouldn't be that big of a deal,but if you get them over and over again,that means something went wrong between you two in the interactions you had prior to her blowing you off.



In other words,something was "off" in all the time you two hung out or talked to each other leading UP TO you asking her out and being turned down.




I suggest you try the advice in my signature.


If you follow it exactly....EXACTLY,it should put you back in the driver's seat.




When a girl repeatedly blows you off like that,she's taking you for granted.


She thinks you'll be there forever continuing to ask her out.



Go to the bottom of this reply and click on the word "THIS!".


Have a look at it. It should cause these "difficult responses" you're getting to dry up.
 

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SHe's not that into you. She's putting you on the back burner,knowing you will be there-so now she's waiting to see if something better comes up. SO you need to let her know that you aren't sitting at home waiting for her to call.

I'd tell her,"well, I guess I'll make other plans" IF she calls back wanting to go out-"I've made other plans,since you didn't seem sure" LET HER KNOW she needs to say yea or nay when you call,not I'll get back to you.
 
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