how to deal with being ghosted

[Ryan Adams]

ok chick I was talkin to made plans with a d set up a vacay completely and utterly ghosted me. she texted me last wednesday and i mentioned like an idiot mentioned a date Friday she said yes let's do it then never responded at all. I then texted her at night saying " you know just saying no would be easier on both of us then just standing me up. I'm done reaching out to you I'm basically talking to myself anyway" then deleted her number and facebook snap etc. fvck her. I then saw her at a bar sat night and she literally saw me and snuck out and ****ing left immediately after seeing me. how weird is that? so fvcking odd. anyway enough about her. not gonna lie though this one kinda stings I liked her alot. we got along fvcking great... just need to vent like a pvssy on here fellas. weird thing is house I did work l today ended up being her fvcking grandmothers I met her her aunt and uncle....complete white trash maybe I dodged a bullet with her

 

[Who Dares Win]

If you are ghosted you accept reality and stop pursuing, you actually stop thinking about her.

The most stupid thing you can do is send butthurt messages, what do you expect to get out of it?

You inner frame is weak and you should work on it, we all get ghosted sooner or later and if you happen to see the girl who ghosted you somewhere you simply pretend she is not there, if she gets close and say hi, you say hi and go back to your business.

All you got with your message was her playing the victim with her friends while actually boosting about guys getting mad for her rejection.

 

[The Duke]

You are learning. At some point go back and read everything you posted about this girl.

Never provide free attention to women you aren't fuhking and most of your problems will go away.

 

[Ryan Adams]

my own ego had to let her know because ghosting someone is fvcking low and trashy in my opinion I felt better after telling her what I said which really wasnt bad at all. it probably wasn't the right thing to do but fck it what else did I have to lose.

 

[marmel75]

When you get tired of having this happen to you repeatedly you will start listening to the advice you are given. Apparently you didnt have enough at the point this happened.

Have you had enough now or do you want to keep having it happen?

 

[greatsnake]

There is no other to give your attention to someone who isn't going to respect you. Drop her and move on.

 

[Ryan Adams]

shes dropped but I haven't moved on. I'm mad she would do me like this

 

[greatsnake]

shes dropped but I haven't moved on. I'm mad she would do me like this

Don't try to understand-- you will never understand women. Try channeling those emotions and turn them into something positive. .

 

[Ryan Adams]

I'm trying shes just on the mind. it was just so fvcking weird how she literally stopped off the face of the earth and then when she saw me just dipped out. a part of me wants her back. is it only me who thinks ghosting is trashy

 

[marmel75]

shes dropped but I haven't moved on. I'm mad she would do me like this

Moved on from what? The only place you had a real relationship with this woman was in your mind.

 

[Ryan Adams]

I thought we had something there.

 

[Glassguy]

When you get tired of having this happen to you repeatedly you will start listening to the advice you are given. Apparently you didnt have enough at the point this happened.

Have you had enough now or do you want to keep having it happen?

This ^^^^
Ryan- you're the common denominator with all of these women. It's not them dudes it's you. I'm actually surprised that you're even going out with them once being as needy as you are being with them.
You really need a total overhaul in your mindset. You have the furthest thing from scarcity when it comes to women. You've been told all of this over and over again, yet you keep sabotaging potentially decent relationships.

You only get ghosted if you are chasing women and pushing them away. You never get ghosted if they are chasing you.

 

[Glassguy]

I thought we had something there.

You never even fvcked her. Why in the world would you think that?!?

Are you wanting laid or a relationship? Because you have to push to get laid before they ever bring up the relationship.

 

[ubercat]

Ryan
Seriously the guys r just trying to help you man.

Y not work on your head for the long term. Your thoughts are the one thing you can't run from.

You could:

Download a meditation app and set a daily reminder
Buy a copy of guerilla mindset and do the exercises
Join a sports team
Study a traditional martial art like goju Ryu karate.

Any of these would over 6 months move you into a better headspace.

Your obviously doing great getting dates so once you fix your head everything will just fall into place.

 

[Ryan Adams]

I want a relationship bros

saying it was me who fvcked it up just made me feel 1000x worse lol. I mean in the beginning I played the game but she never ever texted me first so I went weak and started chasing her. if she ghosts me forever wouldn't that be just sh!tty of her. or is it only me who thinks this? I mean I put up money on a vacation that she was so adamant about going and she just gonna fvcking ghost me. isnt that kind of sh!try come on make me feel better here

 

[Glassguy]

saying it was me who fvcked it up just made me feel 1000x worse lol. I mean in the beginning I played the game but she never ever texted me first so I went weak and started chasing her. if she ghosts me forever wouldn't that be just sh!tty of her. or is it only me who thinks this? I mean I put up money on a vacation that she was so adamant about going and she just gonna fvcking ghost me. isnt that kind of sh!try come on make me feel better here

You're a beta provider. Not sure why you expected different.

She was attracted/interested but you destroyed that with your needy/clingy/insecure/non escalating/wanting a relationship asap actions.

This is exactly why you dont go spending money or make long term plans early on.

Stop playing the victim. If you want to get mad at someone, get mad at yourself and start applying the things people are trying to teach you so you can strengthen your frame and follow basic communication rules in dating.

You are allowing it and causing it. You're expecting these women to make you happy and it doesnt work that way bud. You are the only one responsible for that.

 

[Ryan Adams]

ok I got it thats the way I am though I thought she enjoyed everything I was doing I guess she did until she kept ditching me for her friends constantly thing was I never blew her phone up or anything like that. she eventually will respond to me to make some excuse up about why she did what she did so it wont awkward in public when I do see her what should I say am to her. absolutly nothing?

 

[Spaz]

She's blameless in this.

Her internal defence mechanism has detected massive amounts of neediness/weakness.

A needy man is a dangerous man to her and her future unborn children. This is why women are predisposed to ghost and run.

 

[Ryan Adams]

thing was I never forced anything on her she was always compliant to go out I never blew up her phone or got lovey dovey with her or anything.

 

[marmel75]

thing was I never forced anything on her she was always compliant to go out I never blew up her phone or got lovey dovey with her or anything.

You let her repeatedly sleep in your bed without sex. That's about as bad as it gets.