"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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How to deal with a text like this?

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Ok so a bit of background info - dating girl for about 5 weeks and she shows very high interest. I can't see her for a few weeks due to some circumstances and then I get this text:

''Probably a good thing - 2 weeks break might do me good - I think I'm a bit too keen on you. Do you know the hot co-worker asked me out today and I turned him down?!? Whats the world coming to?''

How should I respond to something like this? I have been asked out by girls whilst we have been dating but I never tell her. Should I let her know that I do or just ignore this text or? I'm stumped.
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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She's testing your manly core, are you jealous, needy etc...

I'd make a joke out of it (keep it playful an fun) tease her that she misses you (that's what she's saying, in the format of a test) and you're not surprised she does because you're awesome and you look forward to catching up in a couple of weeks.

You validate yourself and her feelings this way, without using logic like the typical man would.

Don't mention anything about the hot co-worker she mentioned, because you're a man and above all that shenanigans ;)

Don't ignore her that's just rude and don't tell her about other women, it's none of her business unless you're exclusive (bit soon for that).

My thoughts anyway....
 
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nemz said:
She's testing your manly core, are you jealous, needy etc...

I'd make a joke out of it (keep it playful an fun) tease her that she misses you (that's what she's saying, in the format of a test) and you're not surprised she does because you're awesome and you look forward to catching up in a couple of weeks.

You validate yourself and her feelings this way, without using logic like the typical man would.

Don't mention anything about the hot co-worker she mentioned, because you're a man and above all that shenanigans ;)

Don't ignore her that's just rude and don't tell her about other women, it's none of her business unless you're exclusive (bit soon for that).
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This^

Id respond with "He asked you out too? I thought I was the only one."
 
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TheException said:
This^

Id respond with "He asked you out too? I thought I was the only one."
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LOL this^^

That's a great response
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Fireballs said:
''Probably a good thing - 2 weeks break might do me good - I think I'm a bit too keen on you. Do you know the hot co-worker asked me out today and I turned him down?!? Whats the world coming to?''
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Looks like you have her wrapped around your finger. If you haven't already banged her, what are you waiting for.
 
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Personally, I don't like when women do things like this. The fact that she called another guy hot and let you know she thought he was hot? No bueno. With that said, while I don't believe the delivery was the best, I think what she was subconsciously trying to say was "I'm getting other offers but I'm turning them down because I like you so much." So... yeah, delivery sucks, but the sentiment is good. However, when I get text like this I don't tend to answer them. If they ask me about it later, I'd be like, "well, how was I supposed to respond? I don't look at guys like that, and his hotness isn't really of interest to me." Like, why would I involve myself in that kind of conversation?? Girls, man, they be weird sometimes...
 
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