"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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How to deal with a flakey girl who is hopeless at keeping in touch

leif_eriksson

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I was dating a girl back in march and april. She left in May to travel around the world and doesn't get back till November. Up until about last week we had been keeping in touch with each other on a fairly regular basis, mainly on myspace or txt or the odd phone call. Now she hasn't responded to any of my messages which kinda gives me the thought that she's probably met someone out there in New Zealand.

Now we weren't exclusive to each other when she left and basically we left things in an open way, so im not really that surprised if she has met someone, but I do like her a lot and we did get on really well and had lots in common.

She is known to be useless at keeping in touch with even some of her best friends.

Its probably just nothing and I'll probably get a txt or something in a couple weeks or so.

Basically should I just stop contact with her and let her get on with it and get on with my life and see what happens when she comes back??? what would any of you guys do?

thanks
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Take it from someone like myself, who has beaten the dead horse--time and time again. Move on, seek out other women, and don't put your apples in one basket.

Believe me, if a girl wants to be with you-- you will not be confused or dumbfounded by her actions. Listen to your gut, it's already telling you what you need to do!
 
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Are you sure SHE'S the one hopeless here?? Look, I understand what you're feeling, because all of us guys wonder why girls never say what's on their mind... that's because girls are FULL OF SH*T... I really want them to say "ok I'm not going to talk to you anymore since i met another guy" but they're NEVER upfront and like to play all these mindf*ck games... just don't contact her and if you're lucky she'll contact you someday
 

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well actually i didn't mention it in the first post but I'm off to visit an ex french girlfriend next month so I am certainly not hanging around.....
 

“The 22 Psychological Triggers That Make Women Chase You… Starting Tonight”

Forget the cash, the cars, and the chiseled jawlines. Female desire operates on a completely different frequency. Primal. Subconscious. Triggers that bypass her logic and hit her on a gut level. Most guys are totally blind to them.

I know because I was one of them. The overthinking. The paralysis. The silent drive home kicking yourself for freezing up. Watching average guys walk away with the girl while you stood there stuck in your own head.

Then I decoded the psychology behind what actually makes women tick. 22 hard rules.  Subtle behavioral shifts that rewired my entire reality. The anxiety evaporated. Women started leaning in. Investing. Chasing.

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If she can't recognize the good thing she's got going with you...or can't/won't rise to meet the challenge of earning your respect, don't go chasing her. Let her make her own mistakes.

You've given her a fair opportunity to win YOU. Do NOT lower yourself to make it easier for her. I've done this...all it's done is destroy my confidence and turn me into a snivelling pussified shell of a man.
 

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Not reading. Give her a kick out the door. Next.
 
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