"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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How to de-pedestalize women?

teddy

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Theoretically you can understand it, it's just harder to implement in practice when you're starting out.
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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Start to spin plates or in other terms: diversify. It's only natural that you pedestalize a thing of you only have it once.

Another way would be starting disregard women, however I wouldn't counsel you this, since it comes with some disadvantages.
 

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It's all about self worth man. When you have something going for yourself, your standards are higher and you don't see so much value in just a pretty face.

Put in your time at school and the gym, have a real salary, some assets. And watch how that little girl is just one of many that have to prove to YOU that she is the right choice.

It's not about looking at women differently, it's about considering yourself differently.
 

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corner boy said:
Start to spin plates or in other terms: diversify. It's only natural that you pedestalize a thing of you only have it once.

Another way would be starting disregard women, however I wouldn't counsel you this, since it comes with some disadvantages.
What type of disadvantages? Right now, it's helping me to disregard them and work on my own stuff and they don't seem that special anymore
 

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study anatomy. when you understand what is underneath all that beautiful skin and flesh you won't be so enamoured.

or visit bestgore.com
 

"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

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corner boy

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teddy said:
What type of disadvantages? Right now, it's helping me to disregard them and work on my own stuff and they don't seem that special anymore
you cannot appreciate, what you disregard. Banging a woman won't have anymore a value to you. It won't give you any acknowledgement
 

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How to de-pedestalize women? Fvck a whole bunch of them. As they say, familiarity breeds contempt. In my observation, only virgins and guys with limited sexual experience actually pedestalize women.
 

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When she asks you to her place and in the excitement of it all she forgets to flush. True story lol. Girls are people of flesh and bone.
 

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Mauser96 said:
Walk into the washroom after one of them has left, after having a big, dirty crap. This will be hard to do, because they will hold it in until constipation sets in to avoid doing this in a shared washroom setting. But ocassionally, they have no choice.

This will make you realize they are only human, and that their poo stinks too.
NOTHING changes your mind about all that makeup, dye, perfume, sexy clothing, etc, quicker than a whiff of the insides of their bowels will.



I am serious here.

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Yum yum yum...
 

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honestly Im wondering this myself.

I think the best approach is to just read a lot of sosuave like material. this ideally will unpollute the brain. this will then hopefully make you naturally start thinking properly so when you finally start practicing all youve learned here you will be less likely to pedataslize a female.

granted I know i still need to go out into the real world some day but we all must get ourselves ready to do that first. I think the real world is where you stop doing this women worship but to make sure you dont do it you prepare yourself as best you can....eat right, sleep right, pray/mediate, read DJ bible and other stuff a lot to unpollute mind, etc.
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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SgtSplacker said:
It's all about self worth man. When you have something going for yourself, your standards are higher and you don't see so much value in just a pretty face.

Put in your time at school and the gym, have a real salary, some assets. And watch how that little girl is just one of many that have to prove to YOU that she is the right choice.

It's not about looking at women differently, it's about considering yourself differently.
Winna Winna Chicken Dinnnna
 

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We had a terrible TV show in the UK called Take Me Out- 1 guy trying to impress a panel of 30 women. Most of the girls who went on each episode all dressed like shop models and surprise, surprise, they were all picky as fvck, reflecting that not only the tacky TOWIE look is now what passes for hot, but also a reflection that no one cares about personality anymore. Its sad that this is what guys fall for. Proper 'hotties' who are genuine nice people are probably in some monotonous unglamorous job cleaning tables or something, that could blow guys away once they get all dressed up for a drinks party. Its just sad that these guys won't notice them.
 

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DragonBlood said:
When she asks you to her place and in the excitement of it all she forgets to flush. True story lol. Girls are people of flesh and bone.
:crackup: :crackup: :crackup:
 

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I'm trying to work on this but for men. (I'm female) I try to catch myself when doing so and use a affirmation to help brain wash myself lol.

even my conditioning has been conditioned.
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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