I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
What type of disadvantages? Right now, it's helping me to disregard them and work on my own stuff and they don't seem that special anymorecorner boy said:Start to spin plates or in other terms: diversify. It's only natural that you pedestalize a thing of you only have it once.
Another way would be starting disregard women, however I wouldn't counsel you this, since it comes with some disadvantages.
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
you cannot appreciate, what you disregard. Banging a woman won't have anymore a value to you. It won't give you any acknowledgementteddy said:What type of disadvantages? Right now, it's helping me to disregard them and work on my own stuff and they don't seem that special anymore
Yum yum yum...Mauser96 said:Walk into the washroom after one of them has left, after having a big, dirty crap. This will be hard to do, because they will hold it in until constipation sets in to avoid doing this in a shared washroom setting. But ocassionally, they have no choice.
This will make you realize they are only human, and that their poo stinks too.
NOTHING changes your mind about all that makeup, dye, perfume, sexy clothing, etc, quicker than a whiff of the insides of their bowels will.
I am serious here.
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You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
Winna Winna Chicken DinnnnaSgtSplacker said:It's all about self worth man. When you have something going for yourself, your standards are higher and you don't see so much value in just a pretty face.
Put in your time at school and the gym, have a real salary, some assets. And watch how that little girl is just one of many that have to prove to YOU that she is the right choice.
It's not about looking at women differently, it's about considering yourself differently.
:crackup: :crackup: :crackup:DragonBlood said:When she asks you to her place and in the excitement of it all she forgets to flush. True story lol. Girls are people of flesh and bone.
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.