"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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how to converse with a group of girls

spesmilitis

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I eat in crowded areas, and I always find myself eating with a group of random girls. Their in proximity, I make eye contact with one of them, then say hi and introduce myself.

My problem is, I can't get into the conversation much with the group. They start talking about their own topics which I have nothing to add to. Sometimes I can talk to 1 of the girls while the rest talk about their own stuff, but most of the time, im just there.

Anyone who what are some good topics/techniques for a group of random girls.
One good topic is, 'how do you guys know each other?'
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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If you can't DOMINATE the conversation, I wouldn't even try. You've got to be Mr. Charisma. Talk about things that involve all of them, and include them all in the conversation.
 

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Don't listen to negative advice - the more you try and talk to them the easier and more fluent it gets. Talk to them about something happening in showbiz and then lead it back to them, Jacko is always good for this.

Ask them: 'you guys heard about Michael Jackson's going to get a sex change? Thats pretty ****ed up, eh?'

Always have a comment to say afterwards, you've got to be able to run with the topic. You can then say:
'well, thats about the only left he can change. So, say he does it, what do you reckon the first thing he would do after the op? what would you do?'
Bust on them for whatever they say, but don't reply with anything too vulgar, you don't want to come across as creepy!

Listen to what they say without interupting too much, everything people say brings up another link to talk about. Say you ask one of the girls what they did last weekend, and she says she saw a movie, ask what movie it was and whether the whole group went etc. You can keep a conversation going for a long time without actually using any material by just listening and asking questions about the stuff they say. Everybody loves talking about themselves, so by the end you will have come across as a 'cool guy'.

When someone says something that truly interests you, or you have something in common, focus on them like it was just the two of you. If things go well, get the number and then carry on talking to everyone else

There's no trait you have to have before you start talking - just go for it and you'll give off the right vibes and you'll improve with every converstation.

Just go for it - there is no downside!
 

Nighthawk

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whistler said:
If you can't DOMINATE the conversation, I wouldn't even try.
That's what I was going to say.

Act like David Letterman, interview them and tease them about their answers. Be flat-out argumentative if you like (while keeping your cool), thats always worked for me.
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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