"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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How to control yourself?

SilverProphet

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We all get emotional sometimes, say, act, text messenging something that we will regret later. At the heat of the moment, even we know it is something we shouldnt do, we still uncontrollably do it. I am a very impulsive person. Right now I feel like say something pointless to a girl I dated a while ago. HELP ME what should I do. Should I follow my heart at this moment or my brain.
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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lyamdb

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well you know you have to follow your brain not your heart!
But why do we get non-realistic emotions sometimes and do things we later regret? because our emotions aren't on the right path. we're insecure. our emotions are always repressed due to our lack of experience. the reason you want to send this message to that girl is probabely that you know you have fvcked up. now you want to fix it. maybe prove to her that you deserve more respect. and you just keep fvcking it up till the day she won't even respond to you. if you want to get rid of these emotional outbursts, the only way is to work on your skills and become a gathered, secure person. no short term solution is available. there's no simple trick to play at these moments. these moments' existance implies that something BIG must be done.
 

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dam I said something extremely lame to this girl today. I dont even like her. I think only reason I talk to her is because she rejects me now and my male ego cant accept that. In the end of day, I feel so ashamed and lost all the respects for myself. Well, I guess I just have to pretend it is just one of those day that you **** up hahahah. I had upper hand in this breakup and I just gave it away.
 

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Take a deep breath, count to 10, think about a better alternative.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Francisco d'Anconia

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SilverProphet said:
We all get emotional sometimes, say, act, text messenging something that we will regret later. At the heat of the moment, even we know it is something we shouldnt do, we still uncontrollably do it. I am a very impulsive person. Right now I feel like say something pointless to a girl I dated a while ago. HELP ME what should I do. Should I follow my heart at this moment or my brain.
Learn patience. Guys typically want to react to situations as soon as they arise, bad move. Learn to sit, think and decide the best course of action instead of always following irrational emotions.
 

mrRuckus

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SilverProphet said:
At the heat of the moment, even we know it is something we shouldnt do, we still uncontrollably do it.
Uncontrollably?

Weak.
 
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