Again, thanks to all who gave advice, particularly ScrewIt and PuertoRico. I did grow enough balls to ask her but *drumroll please* she said she "kind of is seeing someone" (translation: I like someone else?) and claimed she wanted to be friends (what a shocker!). She did not give me her number, though, but did tell me where on campus she works and invited me to go there and talk to her at anytime. Does she sound serious about being friends or was it just a rhetorical consolation prize? Do they usually give numbers to LJBF'ed people? I won't go to where she works. If I see her again I'll talk to her and perhaps we will wind up as friends but that is not and never was the goal.
"The Kiss of Death Mistake"
You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?
Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.
One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.
Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.
How to close the deal with a college classmate?
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"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
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****in ****. I am tired of hearing this bull****. I have been here like a week...
Girls are plentiful. Move on.
Girls are plentiful. Move on.
Mr. Delicious
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no interest in you. Being friends is her way of saying slag off. next
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when a girl mentions she has a bf i just move move over the topic by talking about whatever else we were talkin about. like heres a recent example:
oh ya my bf did it for me he has 6 this that this that, and i know how to do it too.
so u say
:id never get a piercing im scared of infection and all that
she say: oh ya just dip it in some deodarant with alcohol in it
you say : oh ya how about some vodka
her: nah 2 strong
you: well i always try finding a better way to get it in me
wutever just dont talk about it and keep doin ur thing, if she responds well to kino she is probably not giving a **** of her bf or just using him for stability, in case you just want to **** her brains out n move on.
oh ya my bf did it for me he has 6 this that this that, and i know how to do it too.
so u say
:id never get a piercing im scared of infection and all that
she say: oh ya just dip it in some deodarant with alcohol in it
you say : oh ya how about some vodka
her: nah 2 strong
you: well i always try finding a better way to get it in me
wutever just dont talk about it and keep doin ur thing, if she responds well to kino she is probably not giving a **** of her bf or just using him for stability, in case you just want to **** her brains out n move on.
"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.