Again, thanks to all who gave advice, particularly ScrewIt and PuertoRico. I did grow enough balls to ask her but *drumroll please* she said she "kind of is seeing someone" (translation: I like someone else?) and claimed she wanted to be friends (what a shocker!). She did not give me her number, though, but did tell me where on campus she works and invited me to go there and talk to her at anytime. Does she sound serious about being friends or was it just a rhetorical consolation prize? Do they usually give numbers to LJBF'ed people? I won't go to where she works. If I see her again I'll talk to her and perhaps we will wind up as friends but that is not and never was the goal.
Why "Whatever You Want" Keeps You Single
She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.
You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.
The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.
How to close the deal with a college classmate?
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- Start date
"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
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****in ****. I am tired of hearing this bull****. I have been here like a week...
Girls are plentiful. Move on.
Girls are plentiful. Move on.
Mr. Delicious
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no interest in you. Being friends is her way of saying slag off. next
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when a girl mentions she has a bf i just move move over the topic by talking about whatever else we were talkin about. like heres a recent example:
oh ya my bf did it for me he has 6 this that this that, and i know how to do it too.
so u say
:id never get a piercing im scared of infection and all that
she say: oh ya just dip it in some deodarant with alcohol in it
you say : oh ya how about some vodka
her: nah 2 strong
you: well i always try finding a better way to get it in me
wutever just dont talk about it and keep doin ur thing, if she responds well to kino she is probably not giving a **** of her bf or just using him for stability, in case you just want to **** her brains out n move on.
oh ya my bf did it for me he has 6 this that this that, and i know how to do it too.
so u say
:id never get a piercing im scared of infection and all that
she say: oh ya just dip it in some deodarant with alcohol in it
you say : oh ya how about some vodka
her: nah 2 strong
you: well i always try finding a better way to get it in me
wutever just dont talk about it and keep doin ur thing, if she responds well to kino she is probably not giving a **** of her bf or just using him for stability, in case you just want to **** her brains out n move on.
"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.