How to change?

[werdmaster]

So the other day I realized that I can never truly over come my social phobias. They prevent me from doing well in sports, being popular, and getting woman. What are ways to rid myself of this.

I happen to be a very athletic, however, I cannot apply it. Because under competition, my head destroys me physically. It is for this reason that I quit my sports teams.

Secondly, I am a spaz (if u havent already realized.) I can't imitate voices, jokes, or even those crappy rap dances they do on tv.

I am just overcome with a certain intimidation.
What are some good things to do?
Maybe like take a public speaking course, an acting class. What are some things to desensitize me?

 

[Sniper2k]

I have the same problem, but I'm getting better. What's working for me is that I'm realizing my dream to have that "I-don't-give-a-FVCK!" attitude. If you wanna be more of a man, no one can truly help you but YOURSELF. You can be only shown the door, it is you who must walk through it. I'd suggest being more aggressive, thats basically what alpha males are. Try to do ballsy things. Take the risks to reap the rewards! The more you do something the better you get at it. Obviously you're gonna suck at first, thats only cuz you're inexperienced. Think of your failures as a learning phase, the more you try the more you'll learn, until you become a master at what you do. Your an athlete so you know you wouldnt be able to dunk a basketball before learning how to dribble.

Take it a little bit a day at a time until it naturally becomes a part of you. Thoughts are NOT REAL, remember that. Your mind is ALWAYS trying to fvck with your perception of reality. Realize that the only thing stopping you is your lack of willpower. With that in mind, use all your strength to force yourself to get out of your problems. Yea I know its difficult, but you'll soon realize that it is actually NOT if you have the will to do it. FVCK FEAR man, go and do your thing! The only thing that will perfect your skills is constant, neverending PRACTICE! I'm with you man, I'll be improving myself along with you.

Pimp away brotha

 

[werdmaster]

After reading my post and doing some deep thinking, I realized that I need to find myself. I guess a lot of u guys have gotten to this stage already. So bear with me please, and maybe alil advice in wat to do.

Damn I hate being a teenager.

 

[Vincent]

No one said being a Don Juan is going to be easy.

Your one step closer to overcoming your problems by being able to identify them. You just can't give up now.

One thing i saw in your post that really bothered me "Never". Never doesn't mean S*it to someone who knows how to control himself. I thought i was going to be shy forever. But i finally accepted i was shy, and realized i wanted to change it. I did what i had to to overcome it. I started talking to people more, i talked out more when i felt something was going to be funny. I didn't care if it wasn't.

Might i suggest you need to read the bible again, becuase you missed things.

 

[Smooth as Anything]

Embrace your fears.

You have two options: Live with them or eliminate them.

I cannot make that decision for you.

 

[The Antichrist_Star]

If you believe that you are these things... then you are. There is nothing any of us can do to change your mind. Only you can do these things. Be a responsible human being... and alter your fate how you see fit.