"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
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"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
suave sauce
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Just came off nasty relationship and realized part of the reason I've been so depressed is because I don't really have any friends. Growing up I was decently popular and decent with girls. Now I'm in a big slump of unabling to connect and build relationships with people.
I never try to connect or build relationships with people. I just do what I like to do and I naturally meet people with similar interests. Then I become friends with those people.
Life gets easier when you stop trying to be what other people want and just do what you want. I would be a pathetic beta b!tch if I didn't have this mindset. Doing your own thing ensures people come to you.. and they are people who like what you're about. NOT people you chase after and mold yourself to impress.
"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
Oh really.
So you don't try to connect with women at all. They just end up in your lap right.
The problem with fake alphas on this site is that their ego is too big to admit that they need friends and need women.
Try not to pedestalize the fake DJs on this site. They are actually very unhappy with life and use SOS as an outlet to act tough when in fact they cannot dominate other men in real life.
You are confusing the issues. Connecting with women doesn't mean they will end up in your lap. She could completely connect with you and then go sleep with the other guy.
Its about doing your own thing and having woman come to you. As soon as you "try to" do anything with a woman, and she realizes you are trying, she will absolutely DESTROY you.
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i think this is just called being an adult, this is pretty much how life is for most men out there, welcome to this is the rest of your life
just be lucky you havent suffered a divorce and had most of your assets and money taken, with tons of alimony and child payments in addition to that, i mean i remember guys in construction who had worked for 30 years and had payed off a house and earned a pension only to have it all taken away by a cheating wife, just be glad you arent that guy, who is forced to rent a room from a coworker and live off $400 a month after working over 30 years of dangerous manual labor to try to get your retirement, it can always be worse
You sound like a buffoon.
No I don't try to connect with women at all. I try to have sex with them. If we connect after.. its because she has put in some work. Also, YOU are the unhappy one. And its pretty obvious by your pathetic, beta, weak, punk-ass posts.
"She's Out of Your League"
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
Poon King as an exercise in self control do you think you could go a week without using the phrase beta faggot in any post.
Now back on point. If you live in a decent Neighborhood I would suggest trying to get some local joints where you hang out regularly.
So as a minimum I suggest a local cafe a local bar and a gym and also a farmers market if you got one nearby. Make sure that you tip and make friends with the staff and then you've got a number of venues where you re treated like a king. This helps tremendously in just getting you used to that social vibe is being interested in people and remembering something about their lives. You should be that guy who knows Mario the bartender has two kids and knows the names of his kids and when their birthdays are etc.
And the bonus is that when you take dates to these places it will impress the panties off them.
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evan12
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1- you have to be in place when there is a chance to meet people , classes , church , meetups , events .
2- You have to make people perceive you as equal or higher value to want to hangout with you . I found when you look happier than them they tend to come to you , while if you are more sad than them they will run from you .
3- You have to have something to offer like taking them to some fun places , tell fun stories or giving them impression that you might hook them with girls (or guys if they are girls ) .
4- If you are socially awkward or have SE go every day to bar or club and talk to people until you become at least normal.
5- it took me 3 year in my previous city to build friendship with other and now I am in the third year here and the friendship start building again , so it seem this is my average speed.