"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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How to break up with your girlfriend of 2 years.

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Solarium, just wanted to add my 2 cents

The main thing I love about this site is how you can find textbook examples of relationships at all points. I have this site to thank for helping me through quite a few tough spots. Reading exactly what is happening to me makes it seem much less severe.

I too had a relationship beginning at the top of my game, also lasting for 2 years. We broke up once, then had the awkward fvck buddy scenario until she convinced me to come back to her. Throughout the course my dj skills slowly fell to AFC levels. Though she was one of the most awesome people I ever met, I decided I wanted to be single again. She has been clawing like a wolverine to get me back. And here we are now.

Having been through a breakup before I know it will get better as time goes on. Currently I do feel like maybe I made a mistake. I worry about how much she cries whines, etc. It is going to be tough, but fear not! We are not alone in these scenarios. Life will go on.
 

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Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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Doctor Who said:
Solarium, just wanted to add my 2 cents

The main thing I love about this site is how you can find textbook examples of relationships at all points. I have this site to thank for helping me through quite a few tough spots. Reading exactly what is happening to me makes it seem much less severe.

I too had a relationship beginning at the top of my game, also lasting for 2 years. We broke up once, then had the awkward fvck buddy scenario until she convinced me to come back to her. Throughout the course my dj skills slowly fell to AFC levels. Though she was one of the most awesome people I ever met, I decided I wanted to be single again. She has been clawing like a wolverine to get me back. And here we are now.

Having been through a breakup before I know it will get better as time goes on. Currently I do feel like maybe I made a mistake. I worry about how much she cries whines, etc. It is going to be tough, but fear not! We are not alone in these scenarios. Life will go on.
That's exactly what I needed to hear. Glad to see other people going through the same situations. Thank you for sharing that.

This is actually my first breakup of any sort, since I've never had a long term GF before. It's both a learning experience and a torment. Makes me think that timing is everything in relationships.

One thing I tell myself is that everything is changing in the world we're living in. The girlfriends or object of interest in our lives change all the time. The only constant is ourselves. The only thing that we rely on, be happy about, and worry about should be ourselves. As long we keep improving ourselves the world will eventually change itself for the better.
 
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