"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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How to break up with your girlfriend of 2 years.

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Solarium, just wanted to add my 2 cents

The main thing I love about this site is how you can find textbook examples of relationships at all points. I have this site to thank for helping me through quite a few tough spots. Reading exactly what is happening to me makes it seem much less severe.

I too had a relationship beginning at the top of my game, also lasting for 2 years. We broke up once, then had the awkward fvck buddy scenario until she convinced me to come back to her. Throughout the course my dj skills slowly fell to AFC levels. Though she was one of the most awesome people I ever met, I decided I wanted to be single again. She has been clawing like a wolverine to get me back. And here we are now.

Having been through a breakup before I know it will get better as time goes on. Currently I do feel like maybe I made a mistake. I worry about how much she cries whines, etc. It is going to be tough, but fear not! We are not alone in these scenarios. Life will go on.
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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Doctor Who said:
Solarium, just wanted to add my 2 cents

The main thing I love about this site is how you can find textbook examples of relationships at all points. I have this site to thank for helping me through quite a few tough spots. Reading exactly what is happening to me makes it seem much less severe.

I too had a relationship beginning at the top of my game, also lasting for 2 years. We broke up once, then had the awkward fvck buddy scenario until she convinced me to come back to her. Throughout the course my dj skills slowly fell to AFC levels. Though she was one of the most awesome people I ever met, I decided I wanted to be single again. She has been clawing like a wolverine to get me back. And here we are now.

Having been through a breakup before I know it will get better as time goes on. Currently I do feel like maybe I made a mistake. I worry about how much she cries whines, etc. It is going to be tough, but fear not! We are not alone in these scenarios. Life will go on.
That's exactly what I needed to hear. Glad to see other people going through the same situations. Thank you for sharing that.

This is actually my first breakup of any sort, since I've never had a long term GF before. It's both a learning experience and a torment. Makes me think that timing is everything in relationships.

One thing I tell myself is that everything is changing in the world we're living in. The girlfriends or object of interest in our lives change all the time. The only constant is ourselves. The only thing that we rely on, be happy about, and worry about should be ourselves. As long we keep improving ourselves the world will eventually change itself for the better.
 
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