"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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How to break up with your girlfriend of 2 years.

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Solarium, just wanted to add my 2 cents

The main thing I love about this site is how you can find textbook examples of relationships at all points. I have this site to thank for helping me through quite a few tough spots. Reading exactly what is happening to me makes it seem much less severe.

I too had a relationship beginning at the top of my game, also lasting for 2 years. We broke up once, then had the awkward fvck buddy scenario until she convinced me to come back to her. Throughout the course my dj skills slowly fell to AFC levels. Though she was one of the most awesome people I ever met, I decided I wanted to be single again. She has been clawing like a wolverine to get me back. And here we are now.

Having been through a breakup before I know it will get better as time goes on. Currently I do feel like maybe I made a mistake. I worry about how much she cries whines, etc. It is going to be tough, but fear not! We are not alone in these scenarios. Life will go on.
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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Doctor Who said:
Solarium, just wanted to add my 2 cents

The main thing I love about this site is how you can find textbook examples of relationships at all points. I have this site to thank for helping me through quite a few tough spots. Reading exactly what is happening to me makes it seem much less severe.

I too had a relationship beginning at the top of my game, also lasting for 2 years. We broke up once, then had the awkward fvck buddy scenario until she convinced me to come back to her. Throughout the course my dj skills slowly fell to AFC levels. Though she was one of the most awesome people I ever met, I decided I wanted to be single again. She has been clawing like a wolverine to get me back. And here we are now.

Having been through a breakup before I know it will get better as time goes on. Currently I do feel like maybe I made a mistake. I worry about how much she cries whines, etc. It is going to be tough, but fear not! We are not alone in these scenarios. Life will go on.
That's exactly what I needed to hear. Glad to see other people going through the same situations. Thank you for sharing that.

This is actually my first breakup of any sort, since I've never had a long term GF before. It's both a learning experience and a torment. Makes me think that timing is everything in relationships.

One thing I tell myself is that everything is changing in the world we're living in. The girlfriends or object of interest in our lives change all the time. The only constant is ourselves. The only thing that we rely on, be happy about, and worry about should be ourselves. As long we keep improving ourselves the world will eventually change itself for the better.
 
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