"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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How To Become The Best

COD

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people always say practice makes perfect.....BUT IN REALITY its PERFECT PRACTICE that reaps perfectoin.

Its not how much effort you put into practicing but HOW YOU PRACTICE.

any AFC can go for easy targets, amas a large sum of phone numbers, make out with a chic in under 3 minutes, even get laid if conditions are met.

the purpose of practicing is to PERFECT ones result. Before you reach the ultimate level of speed seduction you will have to have study, comprehend, field test and then enhance.

Perfect practice entails:specifics, challenging one self by attempting to overcome certain failure, details, going for the impossible and making it a reality. Its not just how much you practice but how you challenge yourself.

Asian americans have a word "KAIZEN"---incremental improvements for success.

This is a way of making something great THEN IMPROVING ON IT......not by just making obvious changes but pushing the envelope, risking rejection, trying something new, being creative, details, PAST MISTAKES, etc.

SO IMPROVE THE WAY YOU PRACTICE, challenge yourself beyond what normally would do, test yourself with others, think outside the box.

ONE MORE THING-you gotta be good in ALL AREA'S (online, in the field, durring the day in non pick-up atmospheres, at speed dating events, writing profiles/emails, on dates, etc).

Then once your there......WRITE A BOOK, DESIGN A COURSE AND TEACH....nuff said.
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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There is a great post in TIPS about immersion.

I think when you talk about perfect practice you are describing practice where you are immersed.

The friends I jam with and I call it "feeling it." We all realised that you can only really learn a song when you "feel" it. Eventually we realised that "feeling it" is the fundamental of everything.

Anyway this post in tips calls the same concept immersion.

So when you practice and when you feel it then you improve. This simple law works in anything and it is a fact!

Nice post COD.

JJ
 
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