"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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Heretolearn

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You should not have to 'act' but reality is different.

Especially when they make such an effort to be friends.

Those who say act normal, what is that?
 

“The 22 Rules That Turned Me From Invisible to Irresistible With Women… Starting Tonight”

You can skip the expensive cars, the fancy clothes, and the endless gym selfies. Completely unnecessary.

I used to freeze the second a beautiful woman looked my way. Frustrated. Awkward. Watching other guys walk away with the girl while I stood there tongue-tied.

Then I discovered 22 simple rules that rewired my entire dating life. The anxiety vanished. Conversations flowed effortlessly. Women started chasing me for a change.

These rules trigger a woman's subconscious attraction switches. And you can start using them tonight.

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Cruise

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How about acting like you actually carried on with your life ever since the breakup?

Don't go about tooting your own horn... even a quiet confidence should work if you communicate it right.

But, what're you trying to accomplish? Do you want her back, or do you want to be friends, or just make her plain out regret not staying with you? Each answer, I assume, would yield different ways of 'BEING', I guess... and consequently, whatever answer you have only serves to reveal your true character in the process.

So, the question is, in reality: Who are you now?
 

Rollo Tomassi

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There's a reason ex-girlfriends are called Exs - Because they're no longer your girlfriend. Sweet Mother Mary, this isn't brain surgery! You should be far less concerned with "how you should be" around your Ex and more concerned with how YOU want to be of your own accord. Why are you even "around your Ex" at all?

Leave it alone and concentrate on what makes you better in the now. Go out and sarge and remember all the reasons you aren't with your Ex in the first place. The amount of time and effort you put into concocting stupid masks for yourself is time better spent on actually making yourself someone better quality women will want to become associated with.
 

Desdinova

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The problem with many guys here is they've learned to be "in fear" of their ex-gfs. Whenever they encounter an ex, they automatically become afraid of having an encounter with them.

What they need to do is combat that fear and see her for what she really is: A woman who no longer has control over his life. When you realize this, you take back the power that she took from you, and her presence no longer phases you.

That's when you walk up to her, say hi, have some small talk, and then leave to go about your business. Just don't have second thoughts about getting back together with her. She's an ex for a reason.
 

resilient

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I'd be indifferent to any interaction. You've hopefully got your own life back together, so she shouldn't even be able to cause you to sweat a drop on her behalf! :cool:
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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Good_ol_boy

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Be civil to her, as you would to any acquaintance---no more, no less!
 
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