Everybody wants to be the cool guy at a party. This here is a set of guidelines, I think that the cool guy should master..
The Look
Offcourse you are going for a good look! Dress nice but don't overdo it! Dress with taste but also with nonchalance. Pay attention to your clothes, hair and nails but don't let it seem you have been for the mirror for hours!
Sheep or Wolf
If you want to be the cool guy at the party then you have to move freely! Make yourself lose from your friendgroup, dissintresting people and "sticky guys" who hang around you all the time. Find your own way at the party!
Socialize
Talk to as many people as possible. Even when you dont like them at first sight, still go in for the talk. Talk to women, but also with - especially intresseting- men! Men you would like to be seen with. Pay attention to what the say and so interest. Don't stay to long in a conversation and move from conversation to conversation!
Slow down on the boose
Dont drink to much. A lill bit of alchol helps you losen up and makes you sharper within conversations and makes you kill that last bit of shyness! But keep you head cool and don't overdo it..
Don't compare yourself
When you are at the party, don't compare yourself with other men. Be confident with yourself and accept the way you are. Remember you put time and effort in your clothing and you are working on yourself by reading threads like these
Remember that most of the guys at that party or in that club isn't working himself like you do!
Remember names
Train yourself to listen en remember when you are talking to people. While someone introduces him or herself repeat the name so you know you heard it right. Repeat the name during the conversation, this will create a bond and a feeling that you two know each other for a longer time!
Take inititative
Be the first to start the conversation. Let the host of the evening introduce you to people, network! Talk about light subject; movies, books, music, anecdotes, hobbies and parties. No talk about work or personal problems.
Compliment
Everyone likes to get compliments. Complement women on her dress, the way she did her hair etc.. Again don't overdo it! There is alot of disscusion about complimenting, my opinion is that complimenting a person while not overdoing sets you a step ahead in the conversation and the seduction road. If you are more like a negative hitter, use both.
Flirt
Be a flirt, eye contact is the key. Have little conversation and leave to come back later to close the deal. Like with most of the above, don't overdo. Acting like a player in most cases won't get you in the right spotlist, nore with women nore with men..
Dancefloor
If you like to dance, be on the dancefloor with different partners. Move like I said about the conversations, from partner to partner. Keep your dances nonsenual, this way you can dance with serveral women. When the right signs are dropped move in more and step the sensual thing up a notch. A friend of mine always goes straight in, grinding behind the girl without having eye contact. I have seen alot of women moving away with a scared look on there face, so don't move in to fast!
Don't be the last to leave
Cool guys don't stay untill the party is over, or untill the bouncer ask you to leave the club already. A cool guy has more on his program than to stay untill the roosters crow. Say goodbye to the people you have talked with, say goodbye to the host of the party and leave with leaving a little dead space... they will miss you...
I know most of the above has been said in previous post, and is kind of obvious but like with most on this site; you have to know it and understand it to make it a lifestyle! Simple things arent always that clear to us!
Good luck at your next party, be the cool guy
The Look
Offcourse you are going for a good look! Dress nice but don't overdo it! Dress with taste but also with nonchalance. Pay attention to your clothes, hair and nails but don't let it seem you have been for the mirror for hours!
Sheep or Wolf
If you want to be the cool guy at the party then you have to move freely! Make yourself lose from your friendgroup, dissintresting people and "sticky guys" who hang around you all the time. Find your own way at the party!
Socialize
Talk to as many people as possible. Even when you dont like them at first sight, still go in for the talk. Talk to women, but also with - especially intresseting- men! Men you would like to be seen with. Pay attention to what the say and so interest. Don't stay to long in a conversation and move from conversation to conversation!
Slow down on the boose
Dont drink to much. A lill bit of alchol helps you losen up and makes you sharper within conversations and makes you kill that last bit of shyness! But keep you head cool and don't overdo it..
Don't compare yourself
When you are at the party, don't compare yourself with other men. Be confident with yourself and accept the way you are. Remember you put time and effort in your clothing and you are working on yourself by reading threads like these
Remember that most of the guys at that party or in that club isn't working himself like you do! Remember names
Train yourself to listen en remember when you are talking to people. While someone introduces him or herself repeat the name so you know you heard it right. Repeat the name during the conversation, this will create a bond and a feeling that you two know each other for a longer time!
Take inititative
Be the first to start the conversation. Let the host of the evening introduce you to people, network! Talk about light subject; movies, books, music, anecdotes, hobbies and parties. No talk about work or personal problems.
Compliment
Everyone likes to get compliments. Complement women on her dress, the way she did her hair etc.. Again don't overdo it! There is alot of disscusion about complimenting, my opinion is that complimenting a person while not overdoing sets you a step ahead in the conversation and the seduction road. If you are more like a negative hitter, use both.
Flirt
Be a flirt, eye contact is the key. Have little conversation and leave to come back later to close the deal. Like with most of the above, don't overdo. Acting like a player in most cases won't get you in the right spotlist, nore with women nore with men..
Dancefloor
If you like to dance, be on the dancefloor with different partners. Move like I said about the conversations, from partner to partner. Keep your dances nonsenual, this way you can dance with serveral women. When the right signs are dropped move in more and step the sensual thing up a notch. A friend of mine always goes straight in, grinding behind the girl without having eye contact. I have seen alot of women moving away with a scared look on there face, so don't move in to fast!
Don't be the last to leave
Cool guys don't stay untill the party is over, or untill the bouncer ask you to leave the club already. A cool guy has more on his program than to stay untill the roosters crow. Say goodbye to the people you have talked with, say goodbye to the host of the party and leave with leaving a little dead space... they will miss you...
I know most of the above has been said in previous post, and is kind of obvious but like with most on this site; you have to know it and understand it to make it a lifestyle! Simple things arent always that clear to us!
Good luck at your next party, be the cool guy
