"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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How to be romantic on a date?

nismo-4

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I know I can't do dinner and a movie and hope to get even closer to a woman. I claimed that I am fun and romantic on dates...even though I haven't dated in a long time! I only did so to make myself seem that I'm worth more and had more experience with women than what I really had. ;)

But what can you do on a date to be romantic and get the girl more attracted to you? If I make a claim like the one above and not have the proof, word on the streets will get out HEAVILY and I'll have a 1 in 100 chance to ever be able to take a woman out (or have sex) again. Suggestions are always welcome. Thanx!
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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JPFromTally

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What makes you think women want a first date to be romantic? What kind of things were you thinking of doing to "be romantic"?
 

Francisco d'Anconia

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nismo-4 said:
... I claimed that I am fun and romantic on dates...even though I haven't dated in a long time! I only did so to make myself seem that I'm worth more and had more experience with women than what I really had. ...
Why do guys set themselves up like this? Would it have been so difficult to say that you were laid back and would just want to meet casually to see what happens? How exactly do you expect to come off as having a ton of experience without having any? What can be said that will immediately turn you into a DJ? I don't know, maybe you can find something in the DJB.
 

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she earns the romance by complying with your date ideas and allowing you to get physical with her

you don't yet know if she is worthy of romance
 

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nismo-4 said:
I claimed that I am fun and romantic
Never make it seem like you think you have to prove yourself to her by claiming such things. You already have her on a pedastal like you're trying to get her to like you... listing your qualities etc.

Just don't do it next time.

Since you already have, if she questions you or wonders why you aren't acting 'romantic' like you claim, tell her she hasn't done anything to make you feel like she warrants it or something in a witty/funny way.

If you make her feel she has to work for you and she's the one worrying about whether or not you like her, things will go a lot smoother and in your favour!

Pete
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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"Romantic" means different things. It can mean afc wuss, and if you ask women to define the term, what they will describe is mostly afc behavior. But then if they had a date with a guy who did those things, they would say that they just didn't feel attraction (even though he was a really nice guy...).

What women actually want is a man who displays the type of behavior that we know generates attraction: demonstrating value, social proof, kino, leadership, independence, and keeping her guessing about your feelings by using push/pull and mixing fun neg-hits with the occasional unexpected compliment. When you do the right things, you generate attraction, and women will think of you as 'romantic,' even though you don't conform to the traditional Hallmark-card concept of romance.
 

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Charm. Become it.
 

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nismo-4,

romantism exists only in book. Let me tell you about real life. One day I was chatting (really sarging in fact :D ) with my actual GF and said : "In the next minute I'll pick up my phone and call you. Be near. I want to feel you smiling through the line..."

The next time we met, she called me a romantic :D Can anybody guess why?

I keep searching about the word "romantism"
 
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